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Is Attachment Love?

Is Attachment Love?

One way that people deprive themselves of love is especially confusing because it seems to be a way to increase it. This is attachment. In its mildest form, attachment is the desire to be with someone special. Adult relationships carry attachment to a deeper level, but the exclusivity remains. Shouldn’t intimate relationships be exclusive in just this way?

Here are the differences between love and attachment:

  • Love allows your beloved the freedom to be unlike you. Attachment asks for conformity to your needs and desires.
  • Love imposes no demands. Attachment expresses an overwhelming demand: “Make me feel whole.”
  • Love expands beyond the limits of two people. Attachment tries to exclude everything but two people.

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Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.

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3:48AM PST on Dec 30, 2012

Thank you.

8:24AM PDT on Jul 31, 2012

Marianne B./Gayle R. very insightful notes. Many find love spending much of their lives with a partner. Their lives are delightfully enriched!

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11:32PM PDT on Jul 8, 2012

There is a deeper aspect to love and attachment that Deepak has not mentioned very clearly. This is perhaps best understood by considerinhg the perspective of the Eastern Orthodox Church. They say that having love for God is the key and this is an unconditional love for all creation. When it comes to the love between a man and a woman and the attachment that this often leads to they describe this as a threat to spiritual progression and a form of idol worship. That said, they believe the true reason for marriage is that it helps us overcome our natural selfishness by making us take care of another person.

12:46AM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

Thank you for this article.

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8:23PM PDT on Jun 21, 2012

Noted...thanks for posting

6:23PM PDT on Jun 21, 2012

The way Deepak compares Love to Attachment, makes attachment appear like serious, on-going Control over the partner.

Agggghhhh .......... run quickly !

6:01PM PDT on Jun 21, 2012

Dorothy A wrote..."so many post ascociate love with sex". Well, it can be but sex should be the result of love and NOT THE CAUSE of it.For a 4 letter word,"love " has big connotations.As the old song said.."love makes ther world go round" .But hate kills it! If a person describes love as sex,then that person has no idea of what love means."Love ' includes all things that are good in relationships and dscribes anything from just respect to complete committment.The very special love between a man and woman cannot be experienced in ANY other earthly form.It is the joining of the souls of two people and that CANNOT be done without true love for it is the giving of one's self to another which involves more than just the body. "No greater love has one person for another than he/she who lays down his life for him/her "

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