For most of us, the search for the ideal partner has become an obsession: the principle goal in our quest for love. Yet our relationships often peter out after the brief fireworks of romance. Then the false hopes of the mind are exposed for what they truly are – an illusion of yearning, aspirations and dreams we use to hide the disappointment of reality – plain old hormones at work. Once the sexual attraction has lived its natural course, the ashes soon scatter in the breeze of disinterest.
There are times when we feel like a tiny boat on a thrashing sea of hormones, but what of the voice of the heart, yearning for a love that is true, a love that is unconditional? Usually we don’t pay much attention to its call, even if we do speak of broken hearts. The only thing that actually breaks is the celluloid fantasy of what we were expecting the relationship to give us. We want to direct the relationship and dictate the script, yet it turns out our partners often have very different ideas about the role they wish to play.
We spend our lives seeking love through sex, yet we will never find true love until we discover it within ourselves. Another person will never be enough to make you feel truly satisfied: that kind of completion can only be found through love of self.
Of course, the union between two people who love unconditionally is the highest form of sexual expression. Yet this kind of relationship incorporates many different aspects, and cannot be solely based in sexual attraction.