Again, if you don’t want to make the change, it’s not going to work. For example: They think I need to lose weight/quit smoking/clear clutter and I feel like I should lose weight/stop drinking/clear clutter. An external motivation is never going to be enough to pull you through a transformation like this. It just isn’t. To be successful, you have to find a motivation that is true for you and powerful enough to keep you moving when you come face to face with your own fears, frustration, and resistance.
In fact, some of the people who’ve signed up for this challenge already identified that they aren’t clear about their goals, which is essential, so we’ve got to find that motivation and anchor it before September even begins.
And, there are times that even if my client really wants it and they’re giving it their all, just the two of us working together isn’t enough. I’ve referred clients out to therapists before proceeding with our work together. I’ve encouraged some of them to supplement our work with 12-step program work. A handful of my clients have been working with both a therapist and me at the same time, a powerful duo when that’s what the client needs to be fully supported.
The key to making changes–whether it’s clearing your clutter during Sick of Being Stuck September! or something totally different–is being fully supported. Once again, the key to making changes is being fully supported. The question now becomes… are you prepared to get the support you need to make this change? If the answer is yes, then you can do it.
If clutter is your thing, if you are living beyond your physical means, then say yes to the SOBS experience (click here for information about SOBS) and then… freaking DO IT. If it’s not about clutter, then say yes to whatever it is that you need to make this change and then DO IT.
Just… do it? I know, that’s so Nike. What’s a cheesy, people-loving life coach to do when those are the words that fall onto the keyboard?