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It’s All About The Vagina

It’s All About The Vagina

I want to stand up and testify for Naomi Wolf, and her new book Vagina: A New Biography. Because damn, is she taking it on the chin for speaking what I know, and so many others know to be the truth.

Hold on to your hats, here it comes! A woman’s vagina is hard wired straight up to her pelvis, up through her heart and into her brain. When that connection is broken, her entire life suffers. Ms. Wolf shares her own story, which led up to her book. She lived it. And it made her curious. I lived it, wrote a book about my journey, and it changed my life too. The vagina is that powerful. A woman’s relationship with her vagina can change her life — from her general happiness to her career.

And there is always hell to pay when you say the word “vagina.” Imagine what Ms. Wolf is facing by opening the door to a conversation about the vagina. Once again, scientists, feminists, and anyone with a microphone have projected their fears and anxieties about women onto vaginas. Well, we are nothing if not consistent.

Just peek into the history of the vagina: we have lost and found the female G-spot and the clitoris for hundreds of years. They keep appearing and disappearing from medical literature. Is it no wonder that scientists can’t agree about the cutting edge neuroscience that explains the biochemical reasons why the vagina and female sexual pleasure is so powerful (it’s all about dopamine, opioids and oxytocin).

Scientists are still fighting about the female prostate!

I want to say: “Go fight amongst yourselves.” Women who have done this deeply vulnerable work and connected their parts with very little support and often open opposition from society can tell you that the loop exists. Just talk to us.

I know that when I fought through all I had to fight through to re-connect my vagina to the rest of me, my entire world changed. My creativity went up, my happiness and general ease in life improved, my self esteem changed radically into something positive and beautiful, and I even let go of a long standing eating disorder. It was so important for me to tell the story of my sexual reclaiming that I risked everything to write a book about it and tell the world.

I now work with women every day that are on a mission to reclaim “The Divine Feminine,” “The Goddess” or — plain and simple — their bodies. And when they finally connect their vagina to the rest of them, their entire life changes. And this desire to connect to our bodies has no age limit. Every day, I talk to women in every decade of life. Women are catching on to the power of their vagina, and they don’t want to miss out, even if the saying of the word “vagina” fills them with shame.

The experience of orgasm is almost besides the point. It’s more about our ability to connect to sexual pleasure that is the powerful healer and transmitter for women.

I am proud to stand with Ms. Wolf and countless other female sexual pleasure leaders such as Caroline Muir, Joan Heartfield, Nicole Daedone and Mama Gena — just to name a few — who will stand and speak to the facts that we all know: Sexual pleasure and a connectedness to our vaginas is a pathway for women to tap into our courage, our dreams, and our power.

It’s why it’s so damn scary to a world that still wants to keep women tapped down. Imagine if all women were taught that they could find a feeling of enlightenment, freedom, bliss, and feelings that can be called meditative or transcendent through their vaginas?

Is it just so over the top to possibly believe that our relationship with our own vagina can possibly affect our mind states? I echo Ms. Wolf’s question to all of us. Why isn’t this neural science in the news? Why isn’t it on The View, The Doctors, and Dr. Oz? Where is Wendy Williams and Ellen?

Women can heal through their vaginas. Women can power house their life through their vaginas. Women need this information. Read Naomi Wolf’s book. And get comfortable saying and hearing the word “Vagina.”


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Pamela Madsen is an Integrative Life Coach Specializing In Women's Issues: Sexuality, Fertility, Body Image, Wellness and Rejuvenation. Pamela is also author of the best selling memoir Shameless (Rodale, Jan 2011), and founder of The American Fertility Association.Her websites and her daily blog,, are a breakfast essential for reporters, writers and policymakers.


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4:17AM PDT on Aug 13, 2014

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10:12PM PDT on Jun 26, 2014

Hey, GOP is afraid of the word. Hmmmmm!

9:50PM PDT on Jun 26, 2014

The article mentions the fact that some of the best sexologists in the world are still undecided whether there is a G-SPOT or not. Believe it or not what THEY consider some of the most relevant research was conducted on 13 CADAVERS. Astonishingly, based on the subjects' apparent lack of arousal, declared the topic finished and their conclusion was: there IS NO GSPOT.

The best comment I read was: "I believe that there is G-Spot but I prefer to call it Vagina"

Which of course tells us the poster has no clue what she is discussing, where it could be or what it can do. It is like me claiming, "I believe in the EYEBALL but I prefer to call it a FACE." NO, honey. It is different. Read my TRY THIS thread and after some research you TOO will know the difference even if those sexologists are still asking the cadavers if they are turned on yet?

11:11PM PDT on Jul 7, 2013


1:17AM PDT on Jun 23, 2013

Oooooooooooooooooooooooh Noooooooooooooooooooooo ! ! ! ! not another blusher article ! ! !

It's past my bedtime..........I'll have to read this later, so I won't have weird dreams.

5:00AM PDT on Jun 21, 2013

I sort of felt like I was following tangents, like small bursts of energy. I am not sure if that was on purpose or not. This is an interesting article and provides food for thought. Thanks for the book titles and external links.

3:53AM PDT on Jun 19, 2013

hahah lol ,sorry !

11:59AM PDT on Jun 17, 2013

I'm a guy, but I fully relate to this article. If it cranks your tractor, gals, go for it and embrace this concept for all you can. I'll celebrate with you. Much of the fear problem lies with our damm western religions who have made it a sin to love our bodies. I say: 'Shame on you!'
You have distorted all that is beautiful about the human body.

4:19AM PDT on Jun 17, 2013

To Geoff P, who thinks women have "too much time on their hands", I have a question:

Are you telling me men spend LESS time thinking about their sexual apparatus and pleasures, or in pursuing them?

That wouldn't count as having too much time on their hands though, would it?
I mean everybody knows what the phrase "one-track minded" implies, don't they?

4:02AM PDT on Jun 17, 2013

wow this is dumb

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