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Keep Your Sanity During the Holidays

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Keep Your Sanity During the Holidays

By Carol Bradley Bursack,

If one can believe the old Westerns, frontier women multi-tasked by rocking a cradle with their foot to quiet a squalling baby, while pounding out bread dough with her fists, bossing a full crew of young kids and maybe dodging a few bullets. Oh, yeah, since it was just days before Christmas, she would also be trying to knit a scarf for her husband during odd bits of time.

That scenario sounds like a walk in the park to some modern caregivers, especially those known as the sandwich generation because they are raising children while caring for their parents. At this time of the year, nearly every parent has one, if not several, school holiday programs to attend, plus church or other religious programs they want their children to participate in. Many have a full-time job, which often requires attendance at office functions outside of work hours, not to mention festivities during work time that pretty much require a big smile and a batch of home-made cookies. Is this your story?

Prior to your dad’s stroke and your mom’s dementia, the busy season described above would be a “normal” Christmas for you and your family – rushed but still mostly pleasant. You still would have had the emotional reserves to enjoy the cuteness of your son’s solo in his program, and the humor and time to write individual notes in your cards to friends.

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3:06PM PST on Nov 24, 2011

Thank you

12:31AM PST on Nov 21, 2011

Thanks for the article

9:06AM PST on Nov 19, 2011

happy holidays

8:55AM PST on Nov 19, 2011


11:15PM PST on Nov 18, 2011

Dysfunctional family Christmas anyone?

7:26PM PST on Nov 18, 2011

Time was when parents were held in a place of honor ... and incorporated into the family setting as long as humanly possible, without anyone feeling victimized.

Due to newly acquired sacrifices, cutbacks, time involvement and added financial burden butting heads with the current mindset of many (me-first, must-have more, no spare time or money for this, etc., instead of dealing even temporarily with the situation at hand much of the older population is cut loose much earlier than need be.

When you stop to think that will be your end-game someday, what would you hope for?

And even when the time comes for turnover, and it surely will, you must not stop your stewardship oversight. Cruel and neglectful short-staffed facilities abound, allowing much unnecessary suffering. (Know this first-hand, not just blowing smoke.)

Seems the more "backwards" a population appears to be, the more they've got it right on this one.

5:35PM PST on Nov 18, 2011

good advice, but hard to follow...

2:51PM PST on Nov 18, 2011

Thank you.

12:45PM PST on Nov 18, 2011

yup, women do it all haha

11:42AM PST on Nov 18, 2011

I lost my mind years ago. Don't even miss it. LOL

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