In practical terms surrender means letting go. Although you donít realize it, reality isnít a given. Each of us inhabits a separate reality. Your mind maintains your personal version of reality by buttressing it with beliefs, expectations, and interpretations.
Your mind blocks the free flow of the life force by saying, ďThis is how things must and should be.Ē Letting go releases you from this insistent grip, and when you let go, new forms of reality can enter.
Letting go is a process. You have to know when to apply it, what to let go of, and how to let go. Your mind is not going to show you any of these things; worse still, your ego is going to try to prevent you from making progress, since it believes that you have to hold on in order to survive. Your only ally in letting go is spirit, which sees reality as a whole and therefore has no need to create partial realities based on limitation.
The whole path to love could be described as learning to let go, but letting go all at once isnít possible. This is a path of many small steps. At any given moment the steps are basically the same: awareness begins to substitute for reactions.
Awareness doesnít resist the imprint of memory. It goes into it and questions whether you need it now. In the face of a big dog, awareness tells you that you arenít a small child anymore and that not all big dogs bite. Being aware of this, you can ask if you need to hold on to fear. Whether you wind up petting the dog, ignoring it, or withdrawing is now a matter of choice.
Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future. The past is closed and limited; the future is open and free.
Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).