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Living In Financial Crisis

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Living In Financial Crisis

Nobody notices the dirty dishes in the sink when the house is on fire.

When we are dealing with a crisis, we focus on the crisis and everything else fades into the background. All of the resources—energy, time, money, attention, etc.—that we normally spend on the every day whateverness of life gets redirected into that situation.

Nearly fourteen years ago, my son was born a few weeks earlier than expected, and there were lots of complications for both of us. His first three weeks of life were quite intense. It was as if the world stopped spinning. I was tending him around the clock, at first as nurses allowed in the hospital and then at home.

His father took time off from work to be there with us. Friends and family came to visit and offer their support. I didn’t run the vacuum or open any mail or worry about the grocery store. I was just with him, this tiny little baby that needed me, waiting for him to be better… until he was, and life slowly returned to a new now-I-have-this-baby-I-didn’t-used-to-have kind of normal. That was me, having a crisis. It came, did its crisis thing, and then went.

There is a huge difference between having a crisis and living in crisis.

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Christy Diane Farr

Christy Diane Farr is a catalyst. If that sounds like something you want more of in your life, visit 'The Greenhouse' at and join the Wildflower Evolution on Facebook.


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5:44PM PDT on Aug 25, 2011

Thank you so much for this! You have no idea how close to home this is for me! I needed this. I can't thank you enough.

1:02AM PDT on Aug 25, 2011

doing it now

1:25AM PDT on Aug 24, 2011

I would like to share with you the list of things i defnitely DON'T need.

1. Commercials - their sole purpose is to convince me that i need what i actually don't need..
2. Hatrey
3. Anger.
4. Stupidity.
5. Corruption.
6. Vulgarity.
7. Individualism and egocentrism.
8. Violence.
9. Anything that drags me down from my Path.
10. Envy and envious people.
11. Do I really NEED an iPhone??? I don't think so.
12. Do I need a new account on some social network that says "If you are not here, you don't exist?" Well, look at me, I exist and I am doing great without it.
13. Someone to tell me that I cannot do the things I am doing.
14. I don't need to be the first; I don't think that competition is better than cooperation.
...and the list can go on, and on, and on.... but I don't need to annoy the (eventual) reader : )

8:39AM PDT on Aug 23, 2011

I want things all the time. Last night I had a dream that someone was footing the bill for me so I could buy some books at Borders. But if I had a few things that I could pick, they'd be: 1) my cat that I took to the shelter to be in a happy loving home (because she was so stressed around her siblings--2 1/2 years of fighting, money spent working with a cat behavior specialist and all that happened was her getting more and more scared and them lashing out more frequently--I don't know how she is and it's breaking my heart), 2) student loans paid off, 3) my professional career to materialize (the one I worked for for 18 years that seemed to disappear into a void in 2009). If the first of those wishes came true, I'd figure out the others. All of them together and I spend a lot of time either not sleeping or waking up crying from nightmares when I do fall asleep.

1:18PM PDT on Aug 22, 2011

I posted a follow up to this post today and wanted to share it here:

11:39AM PDT on Aug 20, 2011

Thanks for sharing

6:10PM PDT on Aug 19, 2011

That's a hard list to write,don't know why.

10:22PM PDT on Aug 18, 2011

thanks for sharing.

7:26AM PDT on Aug 18, 2011

Christy you are very wise and have a great way of relaying the message, thank you!
I personally can't seem to write down my list, but I do have a list in my mind, which I review almost daily. Sharing is a problem with me, I need to work on that. I am a very good listener to others but don't like to talk about myself. Actually in a way commenting here on care2 is probably a good exercise in sharing.

6:24AM PDT on Aug 18, 2011

Years ago, I read "Write It Down, Make It Happen," and wrote several lists, which I forgot about until clearing old files from my computer. When I opened it and read the lists, I felt astonished that what I had received was actually even better than what I had listed. So thank you for this article. I am making a new list today!

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