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Over the past week, we realized that my wife is having a pretty dramatic other road experience. Three weeks ago, we packed as many of her worldly goods as would fit in our very old, rather troubled Volvo station wagon and drove from our home in Nashville, Tennessee, to Los Angeles, California, to get her ready to begin law school. This was, we thought, a rather straightforward transition to the next leg of the journey.

Perhaps this would be a good place to offer a hint o’ background to help you understand how absolutely twisted this other road has become. She applied to several schools, some stellar ones spread across the country and a humble “safety school” in her city of choice, Los Angeles. Two schools declined, four schools placed her on their wait list, and three offered her admission. Of the offers she received early in the summer, the safety school offered her a full tuition scholarship, the second included a partial scholarship, and the third included no assistance.

These offers come with deadlines, and to accept them, you have to pay a large chunk of the seat deposit (a non-refundable commitment to get them to hold that seat for you). As the summer progresses, the balance of your seat deposit becomes due. This is very understandably to discourage students from keeping all of their offers on the table while they wait to see if someone “better” wants them.

Some students are able to pay all of the seat deposits throughout the summer to keep all of their options open until they’ve heard from everyone. We… how do I say this? Well, for today, we are — financially speaking — just not those people. She had to make some hard decisions. She spent hours (adding up to weeks) comparing everything from programs to climate to middle and high schools for the children (and about a million factors in between).

Because the location was very family-friendly, the one offering no financial aid was the most easily, although not necessarily happily, eliminated. There were plenty of perks and challenges to be had at each of the other two. We coughed up — with much creativity and some charity — a couple of hefty seat deposits to buy more time. There was absolutely no clear-cut choice. She researched and reported, churned and worried about it for weeks.

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Christy Diane Farr

Christy Diane Farr is a catalyst. If that sounds like something you want more of in your life, visit 'The Greenhouse' at and join the Wildflower Evolution on Facebook.


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10:36PM PDT on Aug 12, 2012

There are times when we just know things will work out and other times when we really don't know if we are on the right path etc and so we walk along, hoping, and praying for guidance. Its great when we 'know' and its right but when we aren't so sure we just have to press in to the One who does know and keep going. I guess its just a part of being human. I hope it works out well for all of you. As they say, "Keep up the Faith."

9:21PM PDT on Aug 12, 2012

I can certainly vouch for the fact that trying to force the wrong path to go in the right direction just doesn't work. However, somehow I seem to managed to find the crossroads I should have come out at earlier - but now I have a wonderful man to help, inspire and support. Perhaps everything was meant to be that way. As the song says, "I can see clearly now..." Hopefully your paths will weave their slalom and bring you together even stronger and with a clearer vision for both of you!

11:24PM PDT on Aug 11, 2012

All I can say is wow. Best of luck to you and your fabulous wife.

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1:10PM PDT on Aug 11, 2012

I wonder where I would be today if I had avoided all the pratfalls of my rebellious and tempestuous youth? Course I might not have all the experiences I've had either. I've never drive Route 66 but I have driven I10 from coast to coast.

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5:11AM PDT on Aug 11, 2012

Thank you....

3:13AM PDT on Aug 11, 2012

Thanks for sharing your story.

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