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Love is How We Sustain

Love is How We Sustain

We do not inherit the earth from our ancestors, we borrow it from our children.   ~Native American Proverb

I was just at the Green Fest in Seattle over the weekend where we were selling our organic and all natural love products. Some people were surprised to see a company like ours promoting sustainable love. Some people walked by averting their eyes as though we weren’t there.  More than a few people openly admitted to the demise of their intimate lives. It is tragically not uncommon for people to co-exist with no shared intimacy for years.

It is difficult to keep relationships vital without the adhering connections that physical intimacy provides.  We are sexual human beings and even if our only relationship to our sexuality is to deny it,  this fundamental aspect of our personality defines us in a complex multiplicity of ways that effect how we relate to most everything in life.

I had a chance to speak my peace on the green festival community action stage and was grateful for the opportunity to have a microphone at my disposal where I  quoted Sigmund Freud saying that “Love and Work are the cornerstones of our humanity.”  I explained my theory of how our intimate relationships are held in a fragile container, similar to the atmosphere that contains our planet. It is easy to take this container for granted, until it breaks when we are required to bear witness and accommodate our damaging ways or perish. This is the message that the green festival is trying to promote and celebrate.

The truth is that the absolute most sustainable action we can perform is to nurture and heal our relationships.  Don’t get me wrong,  I appreciate the importance of respecting our use of resources. I was learning like the rest of the participants at the resource recovery center where they had attendants helping us to sort our disposable wastes. I love the idea of no trace left behind. But at the end of the day, at the end of our lives the only thing that we are going to really reflect on is love–who loved us, who we loved.

Our other accomplishments and material comforts fall pale at the moment of truth in our lives.  We are here to learn how to love and care for each other.  From this love, we inspire the care and attention of the planet and all the life forms it holds.  Learning how to love is the only thing that can and will sustain us.


Read more: Ask the Loveologist, Global Healing, Love, Making Love Sustainable, Relationships, Sex, Spirit

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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10:54PM PST on Feb 4, 2013

All types of love are important! Romantic love, love for friends, love for one's pets, love for our children, our parents, siblings and spiritual love as well! Love is a foundation for helping us to choose what we want to spend the rest of our lives doing, what kind of work we choose, and helps also to become passionate about a cause! So love really is the basis for all relationships and for what gives our lives value and meaning- without it, we miss life so to speak!

1:00AM PDT on Oct 31, 2011

thank you for this article :)

8:59AM PDT on Jul 2, 2011


11:12AM PDT on Jun 4, 2011

So true, a wonderful reminder of how important love is.

9:48PM PDT on Jun 1, 2011

Thank you !!

6:54PM PDT on Jun 1, 2011

This is such a brilliant and genuine article about trust and overall love of our relationships. Kinda reminds me why I support CoupleSpace on FB. Hopefully we'll get a campaign on Care2 soon but keep up the great writing job, Wendy, with Good Clean Love!

9:26AM PDT on May 31, 2011

thank you

10:52PM PDT on May 30, 2011

Sharing and caring , standing in thick and thin together , loyalty and total commitment you walk together till the end is what love is

7:53AM PDT on May 30, 2011

Evolve, become a part of the new World...

9:06PM PDT on May 29, 2011

Leave no footprint on the earth - only in someone's heart.

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