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Love Your Self

If you want to feel love as God feels it, you must fill all your voids, for God can only love from the state of fullness. To be a perfect lover would mean to have no secret weakness or wound you want someone else to fix for you.

Searching out your own voids is your first step, filling them with Being or essence is the second. This process is usually called learning to love yourself, but we must be careful with that term. Too often it is synonymous with learning to love your self-image. Self-image is simply ego; it is denial papering over the void of lack.

If you honestly look at your past, which is now stored as thousands of memories inside you, you will always find a mixed bag–some experiences may have aroused love of self or others, many did not.

Memories of shame, guilt, rejection, hatred, resentment, and other unloving feelings cannot be converted to love. These images are what they are. Accept them and move to a higher sense of Self, which is unconnected with memory.

Memory can only lock you into a suffocating sense of your personal past. Beyond memory is the quiet experience of Being, simple awareness without content. This is the region of love, the region of yourself entered through meditation.

Many kinds of mediation exist; their tradition in both East and West is guided by the principle that you have a core Being or essence that can be entered. Access comes not by thinking or feeling. Rather, to meditate is to go directly to the silent region within.

Adapted from Twenty Spiritual Lessons for Creating the Life You Want, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 1995).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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5:22PM PST on Nov 19, 2013

Great Food for Thought. Thanks for Sharing.

6:49PM PST on Feb 19, 2013

The phrase "a state of fullness" rings true for me. When meditating, I feel a state of being filled with bliss. Love is also about feeling physically full around the region of one's heart - that feeling radiates out of one's being.

7:56AM PST on Feb 2, 2013

Beautiful...exactly what I needed today.

5:08AM PST on Jan 28, 2013

This is the greatest love of all

3:21PM PST on Nov 26, 2011

I agree. Rising above those negative feelings is not as easy as hitting the delete key. Thank you for the article and the comments. Breathing.

9:40PM PST on Nov 22, 2011

we must love at ourselves before loving anybody else

9:39PM PST on Nov 22, 2011

it`s a pretty good article

9:38PM PST on Nov 22, 2011

hi (=

9:38PM PST on Nov 22, 2011

hi (=

12:37AM PST on Nov 22, 2011

big hug to self

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