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Loveologist Radio: Getting the Sex you Want

Loveologist Radio: Getting the Sex you Want

Want to learn more about getting the sex you want: Listen to author and sex therapist Tammy Nelson, Phd, as we discuss how to build sexual communication skills quickly and how to connect with your partner in a new way. We talk about easy-to-learn exercises that enable couples to communicate their sexual needs and desires, get past old issues, and revive passion in their relationship.

Communication problems can and do erode relationships both in and out of the bedroom. Tammy explains how she has adapted a proven communication method, which has been used to counsel millions of couples, and applies it to sex. The Imago Relationship Therapy, which was pioneered by Harville Hendrix in the national bestseller and self-help classic Getting the Love You Want, explores how to understand and build trust between partners through a unique form of dialogue.

In addition to communication skills, I guarantee your understanding of sexual anatomy will be enhanced as we explore new findings about both male and female anatomy that will surprise you regardless of your sexual comfort and experience. This conversation is both powerful and enlightening about all the ways that we often don’t, but can communicate about what we are feeling and wanting in our sexual lives.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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2:19AM PST on Feb 21, 2013


2:50AM PST on Feb 18, 2013

thanks for sharing.Communication isn`t easy :-(

7:39PM PST on Feb 17, 2013

best way to communicate ever....just has to be initiated.

12:57PM PDT on Jul 2, 2012


10:36PM PDT on Jun 26, 2012

"Communication problems can and do erode relationships both in and out of the bedroom"

Communication has nothing to do with "getting the sex you want". Sex is totally separate from a "relationship". Sex is an animal attraction to another person, a deep animalistic, sexual attraction which is located in the base of everyone's brain. When that reptilian urge kicks in the frontal brain, the thinking part, totally shuts down. If you are truly sexually attracted to a person and want hot sex, there is no way you can "communicate", talking is out of the question because when you are with that person, your frontal brain totally shuts down and you can't think. The "sex everybody wants" is that hot, steamy, sweaty wild sex that sends you to a heavenly place, the kind that happens when you first "fall in love", which is really just "falling in sex". If you want to turn OFF your sex drive, then TALK, COMMUNICATE because that is the biggest turnoff for any man's hard on. If everybody was so happy with their sex life they wouldn't write every day how happy they are. The fact is people AREN'T happy, they are disappointed. They want back that "first throes of love" feeling. Realistically speaking, that is gone forever because it was just a "feeling" and feelings are not real, they come and they go. The only way to get that feeling back is with a new person and then it has to be someone you are strongly sexually attracted to. This has been proven over and over. Looking at the s

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3:35AM PDT on May 15, 2011

Welcome to the club Craig.

11:36AM PDT on Oct 17, 2010

Communication is great but women are better at it than men. Maybe if we jump on top of them and show them what we want gently it will work.

12:30PM PDT on Aug 13, 2010

I've tried the communication thing but it doesn't seem to help, the lack of sex gets turned aound on me but I'm not the one turning it down.

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