I have been with the same man for a couple of years and he just asked me whether I would want to be in an open relationship with him. He has met another couple through his work that practices polyamory and he is interested in exploring a relationship with them. I am not sure about this but I am trying to be open-minded. Can “open” relationships really work? Is polyamory just another way to have more sexual partners? I know that I can and do get jealous and it seems like tempting fate, but I don’t want to lose him because of this. Is there a way for us both to have what we want in this arrangement?
The idea of polyamory is not new. In fact, the idea of multiple partner relationships is as old as our documented history. There are even Egyptian statues, which celebrate the act and many other religions which have over the years, sanctified the practice of polygamy. It wasn’t until the late-1960s and 1970s when the “free love” movement opened the way to the polyamory practices of today. Books that started the movement, like Open Marriage, have been followed recently by Jenny Block’s Open and Opening Up by sex columnist Tristan Taormino. The most popular polyamory magazine called Loving More has 15,000 regular readers and it has been estimated that there are some 500,000 polyamorous couples/families living in the United States.
Polyamory distinguishes itself from other forms of multiple relationships by its central idea that all relationships, whether they are sexual or emotional exist within the knowledge and consent of all parties. According to the Polyamory society pages, they describe their choices as a “love style,” which is a responsible and ethical form of non-monogamy. Their belief that human beings have the ability to love more than one person intimately in a committed, sustainable, multiple relationships is how they view the future of all relationships. They say that the practice of Polyamory is about maturity and overcoming our jealousies.