Loveologist Radio: On Life, Death and Orgasms


Susan Crain Bakos has written close to 2 dozen volumes on the orgasmic experience over the last two decades and believes we express our core identities through our sexuality. Listen as she shares her unique perspectives on the crossroads of life, love and orgasm as well as her no-fail Orgasm Loop technique for achieving orgasm. Susan recently discovered that she is dying of cancer and we discuss her moving reflections about living and dying authentically. Don’t miss this conversation that you won’t soon forget.

Susan is an internationally recognized research sexologist, a sex educator, and a magazine journalist. She is also the author of twenty books, including the Orgasm Bible, The Sex Bible and The Orgasm Loop. She has been studying and writing about sex for over twenty years and her work has appeared in national magazines including Redbook, Men’s Health and Cosmopolitan. She is an outspoken champion of sexual empowerment, and reports on the cross roads of scientific research and sexuality on her blog SexyPrime.

As a former contributing editor and columnist at Penthouse she has worked with legends like Dr. Ruth and Helen Gurley Brown. She has interviewed thousands of men and women about their sex lives and has developed several sexual techniques that have helped thousands of women achieve orgasm. She has appeared on Oprah, Good Morning America and numerous other television and radio programs.

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Kamia T.
Kamia T.5 months ago

Orgasms are lovely, of course, but part of me thinks that we've made sexual experiences far too big a part of life today in the US.

Aud Nordby
Aud nordby2 years ago


Patricia H.
Patricia H.2 years ago

thanks for sharing

Danuta Watola
Danuta Watola3 years ago

Very interesting.

Jane Barton
Jane Barton3 years ago

What are her recommendations about having orgasms while you have cancer? Is it OK?

Tim Cheung
Tim C.3 years ago


Peter Mengos
Peter Mengos3 years ago


Dot A.
Dot A.3 years ago

Interesting, of course, who doesn't consider the importance of life with or without orgasms. The point of faking one has never been part of my life. Authenticity is a virtue - at least as far as my priorities go,... I prefer the 'real' to the 'fake' in life, sexually and otherwise. Orgasms aren't difficult for me, and listening to this prevalent problem seems foreign to my reality, but, I always try to encourage my friends to reach this most stress releasing and pleasurable heights of human experiences. I believe women are complex and sex becomes complex for the female who combines her love life with her physical expression. Happiness is not dependent upon orgasms, however, and our society seems to pressure 'everyone' to put orgasms as a primary goal in life. It will be naturally experienced as a person is in a personal space which 'finds self acceptance' - including the natural physical expression of our sexuality. It's good that there is help for those who seek it. Sex can be an apex experience, and life is designed to know this 'release'. For relationships there is nothing quite like telling someone you love them with wonderful sexual language, and achieving this apex with great care for the moment shared in the heart, mind, and body!

Gwynethrose F.
Gwynethrose F.3 years ago


Sergio Rudini Stinco
Sergio wagner3 years ago

I so thank you!. Cheers!!!!, Sergio.