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Make Yourself Irresistible
Adapted from Power, Freedom, and Grace by Deepak Chopra (Amber Allen, 2006).
When you exhibit positive and negative qualities, you are not flawed; you are complete. When you are comfortable with your shadow, when you embrace your shadow because this is how the infinite consciousness made you, then you are attractive beyond measure, and your life is an adventure. You are natural when you are comfortable with your ambiguity, and nothing is more beautiful than being natural.
When you are comfortable with both your strengths and weaknesses, you radiate simple, unaffected humanity. This is the essence of being lovable because you are not subject to behaviors that drive love away. You do not constantly look for approval by getting caught up in thinking: What do others think of me? Am I superior, am I inferior? Do people like me, or do they dislike me? You don’t constantly compare yourself to an ideal that doesn’t exist. Your ego doesn’t say to you, “I’m not good enough. I’m not pretty enough. I’m not handsome enough. I’m not rich enough.”
If your experience of yourself is object-referred, it is fear-based and resistant to what is. If your experience of yourself is self-referred, it is love-based and accepting of what is. Self-referred people are natural and unaffected by the opinions of others. They are innocent, simple and childlike. Thank you, God, for making me just like I am. I have good things, and I have bad things; I have all things in me. I am complete. Self-acceptance, total self-acceptance, means self-forgiveness. When you forgive yourself and stop judging yourself, then you won’t judge others, and there will be less conflict in the world.
All relationship is a mirror to the self. Identify the qualities that attract you to others, and the qualities that repel you. Write them down on a piece of paper. This is who you are. And if you accept yourself as you are, and love yourself as you are, you become immensely attractive because you are natural.
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add your comment »In an age when we are constantly blasted with ads which tell us we're not good enough unless we purchase X brand or Y brand; Deepak's message makes life simple; accepting that we have both good and bad within is the beginning to inner peace.
Things are neither good nor bad, but how WE perceive them to be!
Acceptence of who we are is the first step toward enlightenment.
Thank you Deepak for this timely message.
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Thank you!
Your words could'n come to me in a better moment than this, when my self-love is so so badly hurt!
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I totally agree. If we can accept ourselves we won't have a problem accepting others and we definitely will not worry about what others think of us. That is an awsome path to inner peace vs. inner turmoil. Thanks Deepak.
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We tend to be so critical of ourselves and that hurts, lots of us are hurting ourselves unnecessarily. I printed out this piece so I can keep refering to it and get into the habit of being kind and accepting to myself...and to others. Thanks to Deepak Chopra.
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Hello, I almost always read this mesages... they are very usefull to me, so firts of all, THANKS A LOT.
This in spetial makes me remember one song which I listent often, it´s called "Just be" and part of the lyric says " They say learning to loving your self is the first step that you take when you want to be real..." I think it has something to do with this...
Kiesses!
Eleonora from Uruguay
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I sooooooooo needed this today I am a mommE of two and i really have no time to fix up myself so I decided that tommorow I would go to the beauty shop just to make MYSELF feel better thank you again for reminding me that its not all about beauty on the outside!
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"To love one's self is the beginning of a life-long romance."
Wilde
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Thanks Deepak, because it is always good to remind us that by accepting ourselves we inmediately become a magnet of love.
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I think this is an important message considering how much we, as a society, have begun to judge our flaws and each others in a negative way. Understanding these principles has really helped me be more open to the beauty not only in myself, but in everyone around me. It seems that we are always forgiving each other but tend to sell ourselves short. I highly encourage everyone to read this book as it has really opened up a lot of useful perspectives for me.
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