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Making Peace with Change

  • October 15, 2009
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Making Peace with Change

The most inevitable material fact of our universe is the one we have the stormiest relationship with. Either we fight it as it is appearing, or we mourn for it as it passes us by, but we are hardly ever at peace with change.

At every instant of our lives, change is guaranteed. We fight to keep it away, or work to get it here sooner because we think we know what should happen. We are certain (sometimes rightly!) that the change coming toward us will ruin or kill us. We think and hope that the right change will fix us (or them or it) once and for all.

There’s the rub. Other than death, there is no “once and for all” regarding anything that is subject to change. If you take a moment now, you can ask yourself the question, “What changes?” Is there anything that does not change? Anybody, any situation, any location, any thought, any feeling, any opinion?

We may work for change in our political, social, or personal lives, and even rejoice when change appears, but all too soon we become fearful that it won’t be enough or that it will disappear.

It won’t be enough (nothing that is subject to change can ever be enough to truly fulfill us), and it will disappear. That’s simply and starkly the nature of change.

Change is inevitable and yet even the worst is often ultimately not bad news, though it can be when it arrives. There are certainly deeply destructive changes that threaten us now as individuals, as societies and as a planet. We are right to work to bring about positive change and try to defeat negative change. We just have to finally face the fact of change.

Facing the facts allows for adaptation, or as recently said in politics, “being on the right side of history.” We are in the midst of huge change in our country right now, and if we keep in touch through the media, we know the upheaval and hysteria that is accompanying it.

We can recognize and empathize with the anger, driven by fear of loss, in those who are desperately trying to keep what has already happened from happening. We have all tried that futile strategy in one way or another.

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6:23PM PDT on May 21, 2013

I read it again!

10:00PM PDT on May 6, 2013

Good article!

12:43PM PDT on Sep 16, 2011

Thank you.

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7:39PM PDT on Nov 6, 2010


6:15PM PDT on Jun 5, 2010

Good article.

3:44PM PDT on May 19, 2010

Thank you, I read this in a time of change which includes a lot of sadness, but no hate, I have lost the ability to hate. I get angry, yes, but I cannot hate anymore...change has taught me. Now I am looking to see how it is that life goes into loops...maybe it is the resistance against changes that "want" to happen, that life brings. This I mean in a non fatalistic way. As in chaos theory beautiful things grow out of little changes, if I accept the picture I can see those details... and then it is just a matter of choice where to go next in the web of life…to make changes and see new pictures, new levels.
wow thanks again now this is inspiring...((-;

7:52PM PST on Mar 10, 2010

Change is needed for better situations.,, not worse... it is excellent to lead for peace if not resisted and given chance to change.
It needs acceptance and adjustments.

4:28AM PST on Mar 10, 2010

you have to go with the flow, not all change is good but you get used to it

2:17PM PST on Feb 21, 2010

Change is certainly a way for us to better our lives and disposition. Being that we're different, we need to first change ourselves before we see the affects our change have upon other individuals.

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