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Manage Your Shadow

Manage Your Shadow

Violence can be tamed by breaking the shadow side of your personality into manageable bits.
When you have been treated unjustly or personally harmed, the natural emotion is anger. If this anger canít get out, it festers and grows in the shadow. Lashing out when holding it back no longer works; this anger leads to a cycle of violence.

This is a kind of double bind: If you lash out and return the harm done to you, you have done something evil, but if you keep the anger inside and harbor it, you can feel just as evil.

Yet violence can be tamed by breaking it down into manageable bits. Negative emotions feed off certain aspects of the shadow that are very manageable:

The shadow is dark. Everyone has a shadow because of the natural contrast between darkness and the light.

The shadow is secret. We store impulses and feelings that we wish to keep private.

The shadow is dangerous. Repressed feelings have the power to convince us that they can kill us or make us go insane.

The shadow is shrouded in myth. For generations, people have seen it as the lair of dragons and monsters.

The shadow is irrational. Its impulses fight against reason; they are explosive and totally willful.

The shadow is primitive. It is beneath the dignity of a civilized person to explore this domain, which reeks of the smell of the prison, the lunatic asylum and a public lavatory.

Negativity assumes its overwhelming power from the fact that it feeds off all these qualities at once: A secret, dark, primitive, irrational, dangerous, mythical evil is much less convincing if you break it down into one quality at a time. But this process of bringing evil down to scale won’t be convincing until you apply it to yourself.

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Adapted from The Book of Secrets by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 2004).

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Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.

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9:02AM PDT on Aug 20, 2012

helpful information

12:09AM PDT on Jul 23, 2012

Thank you for sharing it!

12:48AM PDT on Jul 3, 2012

Thank you for this article.

11:41PM PDT on Jul 2, 2012

I accept that we all have a shadow side. Since I have moved to a smaller community, I have observed people living in and displaying the shadow side of their nature in actions which they take every day.
I have learnt that I don't have to understand this behaviour, simply accept the world as it is not as I wish it to be.
However, without being judgemental, I still often think about how very different people can be in different countries. Every day on TV news one is shown the extreme suffering people endure, say in Syria or Gaza, where their lives are under threat, their homes are bombed, their family members are killed, their food, water and medical supplies are insufficent, their education is compromised and their poverty is all-encompassing - yet they don't wallow in drugs and alcohol, or use language that is interspersed with curses.... It's an interesting comparison. However, the suffering of others is painful to be concious of...

5:42AM PDT on Jul 2, 2012

Thanks for these healing words.

2:01PM PDT on Jun 30, 2012

Walk in the light and love and recongnize to forgive and make time to forgive, and then keep doing the good that you know to do.

11:30AM PDT on Jun 30, 2012

That was just awesome and I really loved it. It was like a movie, it was like love, it was like living in the real world, and very deep! hehe

7:35AM PDT on Jun 30, 2012

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