Flowers, chocolate and home-cooked dinners are elements of a lovely Valentine’s Day. However, there are two things that really melt a person’s heart: A hand-written love letter and good conversation.
Personally, I have sat with stuffed bears, jewelery and chocolate, in fancy restaurants all perfectly coiffed, feeling disappointed, unheard and frustrated, as I endured one-sided long conversations.
Valentine’s Day can be like New Year’s Eve–a lot of hype and high expectations and then you usually end the night outside in the cold, fighting for a taxi. Blah! Who wants that? Avoid this scenario by showing your partner gratitude and thoughtfulness and do your part to create a special day together.
Surprise your partner with a love letter, letting them know just how grateful you are to have them in your life. Think of a favorite or special activity, a memory, a moment shared and tell them in your letter why it is important to you.
And when you are talking with your partner, take a step back and look at them–ask yourself what does this person bring into your life? How is your life better because of them? And then tell them!
Make your partner feel cherished by listening to them as they talk about their thoughts and get involved by asking questions to really understand their perspective and then share parts of yourself with them.
We are often so determined to be heard that it is so refreshing and enjoyable to actually listen. Get caught up or go deeper: Examine their eyes when they talk, look at their expressions, listen to their laughter.
Thoughtful words written and spoken are more endearing and memorable than any expensive gift given, these are the gestures speak of true love and respect.
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By Kelly McIntyre, Intent.com