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Menopause is a Wake-Up Call

Menopause is a Wake-Up Call

By Babette Dunkelgrun

Interview with Christiane Northrup (above), author of The Wisdom of Menopause, on the psychological meaning of menopause

How do you define menopause?

“It’s a rebirth of your soul. There is a distance between how you have been living your life and how your soul wants to live your life. That causes the discord during menopause. The expectations of society become less important. The same culture that judges your worth by how much you sacrifice yourself for others would have you believe that it’s all about estrogen levels. Nothing could be further from the truth. We all have the tendency to gloss over the hard parts: listening to your own voice and your need to be heard. This changes during menopause. That is the spiritual part of this rebirth.”

What is the biggest misconception about menopause?

“We are taught to be afraid of menopause. We think we’re no longer attractive. What the research shows is it’s women in their 60s and 70s having the best sex of their lives because we begin to come into our own. We just don’t have the ability to put a lid on it. There is not enough incentive to seeing women empowered in menopause.”

Did you have the experience of not “putting a lid on it” anymore?

“When I was writing Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, my daughters were 16 and 18 years old. They would come ask me when dinner was. I said, ‘Don’t you know how to boil?’ We don’t have the desire to keep enabling our entire family and their overreliance on us. We worry that we will lose love if we put ourselves first; we actually get love. We’ve turned ourselves into pretzels to be what someone else wants so often. Menopause is a wake-up call to live a more authentic life.”

What does it take to live more authentically during menopause?

“We as women push our inner voice down with alcohol, food, or excessive exercise and work. The consequence is cellular inflammation. This causes more hormonal disruption and is the basis of many diseases. We don’t teach people in this culture to take care of themselves, particularly women. A good woman makes cookies, is sexually available, looks beautiful and cleans the toilets. Her desire to climb a mountain or keep bees is kept under wraps. During menopause you can no longer not listen to your voice; your body is screaming at you to change something.”

What is your advice to menopausal women?

“You live in a body. It is where your soul lives while you are on Earth. The key at midlife is that you can’t continue to have a donut and coffee every morning, a few glasses of wine every night, not exercise or take care of yourself. One of the things I start with is checking your level of vitamin D. And do something that makes you happy: take a walk in the sun; look at what your life can be like. You’re in labor with yourself; you need unconditional love.”

Are women embracing this “labor”?

“Many women I know are having fabulous 50th birthday parties; they know it’s their turn. It’s so simple. They say yes to themselves and don’t feel guilty. It’s a celebration. The good news is that the fulfilled woman is a blessing to her family, her children, to society, her boss and her church. Realizing that is a transformation. The next step will be to transform the way we do death. We’ll have big, fabulous—funerals.”

Read more on  menopause in The meaning of menopause and Still on the journey. Join the conversation by attending OdeNow’s menopause course. For a free digital copy of Ode’s entire Menopause Series, email engage@odenow.com.

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3:46PM PDT on Oct 2, 2012

Yes, it's rebirthing of the SOUL....

12:50PM PDT on Sep 26, 2012

Thanks

9:23PM PDT on Sep 25, 2012

Thank you!

8:22AM PDT on Jul 31, 2012

Well, menopause is just another natural phase of our life and we are going to go through it just the same as we went through having periods. Can say that I do not miss having those.

One is often as young as one feels even though the aches and pains of arthritis are now with me-trying more walking and things to keep me active to deal with that.

Do not feel that menopause is the rebirth of my soul, am the same way that I was before menopause, just older Lol!

Trying to develop new interests that help the mind to learn new things and keep myself busy, surrounded by friends and sometimes family (they do not live nearby) and the cat that cheerfully owns me.

4:22AM PDT on Jun 1, 2012

thanks for sharing

12:04AM PDT on Jun 1, 2012

when you take the hot flashes and lack of sleep out of the equation, its not a bad time of life.

2:59PM PDT on May 31, 2012

Yes, it's a wake up call alright. You can't sleep like you use to anymore.

2:02PM PDT on May 31, 2012

Thank you

12:14PM PDT on May 17, 2012

and if you are lucky, the hot flashes last well into your sixties

8:39AM PDT on May 17, 2012

interesting take...

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