So, to sum up so far. Sex=emotions=love=beauty=the only reason=transcendence. But that line started with sex, and though sex can make you feel hella transcendent, it isn’t transcendence itself. If love is protected and respected for the amazing and beautiful thing it is, then we need to honor that, and doing Susie in the bathroom at Ruby Sky with Donna at home watching CSI is not honoring love. It is belittling it. It is diminishing it. It’s not cool.
But there are firm believers in open relationships. They say it keeps things fresh. They say it is realistic. They say it is honest and practical. They say they don’t believe in monogamy, and as long as you are honest with your partner, open relationships work. They say a million different things, but just about all of them say this: being non-monogamous is what keeps them together. This implies that without the joy of screwing other people, they would not be together. Basically, they are saying that they would leave each other if they couldn’t have sex with other people. If staying together is marriage=love, then how could having sex with other people truly contribute to its sanctity?
Oh Amy, when I was getting dirty with Trish the other night, I couldn’t help but think of our two-year anniversary party. Oh Michael, when you were at Scott’s party giving Ben a doozy last weekend, I was just home thinking how great thing are going between us. Baby, when I was fooling around with Carla the other night, she started sighing just like you! Darling! I love you so much. Please use a condom, I am not so sure that I didn’t catch Rob’s Herpes. Sorry I’m so tired, Sweetie, that three-way last night really wore me out. We’ll talk about the vacation tomorrow.
How does this honor love and commitment to each other? If your life is dotted with random sexual partners while building a solid relationship, then what is your relationship really about? Is it precious? Is it fulfilling? Is it beautiful? Is it real?