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More is Better

More is Better

Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.  –Swedish Proverb

It has sometimes occurred to me when I explain how to use love products that I should have made my tagline: “More is Better” because when it comes to using great natural and organic intimacy products, that is the truth. Unlike other creams that boast one little dab will do you, love oil and lubricant want to be used lavishly. Sensuality is born in touch and nothing makes a hand glide on skin while waking up your sense of smell like a healthy dose of love oil. Even those that claim they don’t need a lubricant will often agree after just one application that more is indeed, better.

I opted not to promote the “More is Better” tagline publicly because there are too many places in our culture where less is actually more. In a land where over eating, over drinking and over stimulation is the norm and not the exception, the campaign could clearly be misconstrued and taken as permission to indulge to our demise. Maybe the slogan should be “More Love is Better,” because we could all benefit from being more loving to our intimate connections and ourselves.

Enlarging our capacity for love, from having the courage to open to it, the humility to keep coming back to it, and the perseverance to stay with it, could only make our days more livable and our hearts more satisfied. Love is better when we do it more, starting with ourselves. Overcoming our personal version of unworthiness and embracing both our attributes and shortcomings is the foundation for loving others. Applying this same compassion and patience to our relationships with others is how love spreads out in ever widening circles.

Certainly no one would argue that more physical intimate love would be better in a country that is saturated in exhibitionist sexuality and starved for true sexual love. Strengthening the bonds of intimacy with more physical love is like pouring cement into the foundation of your relationship.  Sexual love is the most mysterious, transformative and some might argue most coveted love we can experience. More of this love in a lifetime is better. Exploring the breath and depth of our sexuality in loving relationships is a magical healing balm for our mind, body and spirit.

There may be no better discernment in life to master than learning to apply the rule of “more is better” to the situations that merit it and “less is more” to those that need it. Gaining and applying insight into what we are building and what we are limiting is a straight shot to a life and love that is sustainable. On the days when it gets a bit muddled, start with a bottle of love oil or lubricant  and apply lavishly. Beginning with loving more will clarify all of the distractions that you need less. Loving more is almost like a map.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.

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5:35AM PDT on Oct 17, 2012

More porn? This reminds me of Beavis and Butthead! (Why aren't they on Care2 (Porn2?) yet?!)

5:35AM PDT on Oct 17, 2012

disgusting

7:20AM PDT on Oct 15, 2012

ty

3:50AM PDT on Oct 14, 2012

Love and care would always be more to be better

1:51PM PDT on Oct 28, 2010

awesome

1:54PM PDT on Oct 27, 2010

Thanks

5:06PM PDT on Oct 18, 2010

Thanks.

3:11PM PDT on Oct 8, 2010

thanks

5:54AM PDT on Oct 5, 2010

Thanks for the article.

3:05AM PDT on Oct 4, 2010

thanks

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with so much available to americans as far as food goes - why all this??

The last truth in this list is very important "The best way to eat for YOU is the one you can stick …

Makes sense. Sometimes, it is good to focus on the simple things that are a good place to start.

Just goes to show you what kind of addictive crap big food companies put in the food we eat!

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