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More Must-Do Tips to Increase Your Resilience

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More Must-Do Tips to Increase Your Resilience

In my last article on resilience I gave two important tips proven to increase resilience. One was a simple tool to shift into Neutral during a stressful experience to save energy or saying something you may later regret.

Here are two more must-do tips to build your resilience capacity and save energy.

Resilience Tip #3

Practice the Power of Neutral Tool in Communications

Communication problems can deplete resilience fast. You may feel you’re not being heard, that you’re being misunderstood, wrongly blamed, unfairly treated, or pressured into decisions you don’t agree with. As soon as you experience any of these feelings, tell yourself, “I’m going to practice the Power of Neutral.”  Have a genuine “I mean business” attitude to really move those emotions into a more neutral state and shift your physiology. It could take a few minutes, but it’s worth the genuine practice.  Using the Power of Neutral this way in communications can fill your gas tank of resilience fast.

Here are the simple steps of the tool:

Step 1: Take a time-out, breathing slowly and deeply. Imagine the air entering and leaving through the heart area or the center of your chest.
Step 2: Focus on your heart and breathing instead of your stressful thoughts and worried feelings.
Step 3: Continue until you have neutralized the emotional charge and you feel calmness throughout.
Step 4: Now from a calmer place, try to release assumptions and see more possibilities as you listen from the heart. If the impulse to interrupt arises, gently let it go and refocus on your heart and breathing through your heart area. Then when it’s your turn to speak, you will be able to speak more authentically from a calmer, more centered place.

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Deborah, from HeartMath

Deborah Rozman, Ph.D., is President and CEO of the for-profit Quantum Intech Inc (dba HeartMath Inc.) Deborah has been deeply committed to awareness development and personal growth for 40 years. Deborah is co-author with Doc Childre of Transforming Anger, Transforming Stress, Transforming Anxiety, Transforming Depression and Stopping Emotional Eating.


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2:16PM PDT on Apr 26, 2012

Very good article, thanks for sharing, I found it very helpful and will come back to it often as a reminder till it becomes natural and part of my daily life.

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6:23PM PDT on Mar 20, 2012

thank you

5:50PM PDT on Mar 20, 2012

Very good articles on resilience, I read both, and great tips to help turn situations and feelings around. I will need to copy the steps to each and re-read them. I think my favorite one that for me, it seems the easiest to do and to remember, is the Take Charge tip. There are a lot of energy sapping habits that I could use it on and I will get plenty of practice! Thanks.

12:53PM PDT on Mar 20, 2012

This was something I truly needed to read today. Thank you.

8:08AM PDT on Mar 20, 2012

Quite helpful.

4:19AM PDT on Mar 20, 2012

Thanks for this information.

8:34PM PDT on Mar 19, 2012

Will try to make this so my young, often angry, students can utilize this. Thank you, great ideas.

7:35PM PDT on Mar 19, 2012

Thanks for the post

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