Mourning a Pet’s Death & Celebrating Their Life

As an emergency critical care specialist, I end up euthanizing a lot of dogs and cats in the ER and ICU. If I had to guess, approximately 30 percent of my patients end up being humanely “put to sleep” within a 24-hour window of seeing me. Why? Because animals often present for end-stage disease or cancer, and by the time they show symptoms, itís often too late.

With that, Iíve developed my “euthanasia spiel,” so I can explain the whole process in a compassionate, empathetic way to grieving, stressed pet owners. Check out “Euthanasias gone bad,” and youíll better understand why I think itís so important that the last memories of a petís life be preserved in the most beautiful, compassionate, dignified manner.

With JP, I was “lucky.” I was able to determine and control many aspects of his euthanasia process: where, when and why I was doing it. On July 4th, I finally put JP to sleep ó after 370 days of being cancer-free.

As heartbreaking as it was to euthanize JP, I was so glad I did it in the comfort of my own home. No stressful car ride, no stressful visit to the vet clinic, no strange, metallic table Ö just a familiar place, while resting on the same beat-up old sleeping bag that he was used to snuggling on. One of my colleagues came over and humanely euthanized JP while my ex-partner and I fed him sausages and hot dogs, and surrounded him with love (and tears).

The impact afterward was profound, as it is to any pet owner who has lost a beloved four-legged or feline friend. The hardest thing for me was thinking about the veterinary medical aspect ó having to deal with the mental image that my dog was in a heavy duty, black plastic bag, lying in the cooler somewhere, instead of lying in bed with me.

My only comfort? Knowing that it was just JPís physical body that had departed. As traumatic a memory this morgue-image was, I tried to push it out of my head, knowing that “all dogs go to heaven” and that it was just a physical remnant left behind. As a pastorís kid, I had confirmation from a legit source that all dogs do indeed go to heaven (If there are snakes, lions and lambs up there, you can bet there are dogs tooÖ)

Next Page: What I’ve learned from my loss

While Iíve “done” a lot of euthanasia procedures, JP was my very first pet that I had to euthanize on my own. I fully admit that I was a mess Ö and I know that itíll take time to heal. But what I personally learned a lot from it was this:

  • If you have the opportunity to, euthanize your pet at home. Itís comforting to your four-legged friend to not have to undergo a stressful car-ride or be subjected to a strange environment. While this isnít always feasible or possible, if you can make it happen, do so.
  • Take the time to mourn. I took the whole weekend to spend every waking moment with JP before I euthanized him, spoiling him rotten in the process. I was fortunate enough to take time away from work afterwards too Ė I needed the mental health time to mourn my best friend.
  • Ask your veterinarian for a high-fiber canned dog food for the last few weeks of your petís life. I was feeding JP so much filet mignon and table food, he ended up with severe diarrhea, which made him (and his butt) miserable for a few days. By mixing in the high-fiber canned food (or probiotic) for the last few weeks, JP was able to eat to his heartís (and buttís) content while dining on delicious snacks.
  • Never question what you want. Hours later, I frantically called the hospital where I dropped off JPís body for cremation, asking them to save me some fur. In my grief, I had forgotten to ask for it earlier. Someone then asked me if I really wanted his fur, and would it mean that much to me after heís gone (after all, itís still all around the house!). When mourning, any step helpsÖ and yes, I did want his fur and all those clay paws!

Next Page: even more advice on losing a pet

  • Donít move anything for a few days. Coming home is the hardest part of mourning Ė the house is empty, his dog bed is still there, and thereís no one to walk. Take the time to remove reminders at your own pace. I miss the smell and sight of him, and seeing his toys, bed, and blanket are my only tangible sensory way of remembering him.
  • Pay tribute. JP touched so many peopleís lives, that just creating an online photo album helps me remember the wonderful life I shared with my friend.
  • Let your dog sniff. I only have a few regrets with JP, and one of them is not letting him sniff more on walks. We humans get so caught up in the “busy-ness” of our lives, and are often tugging on dog leashes to hurry our more mellow companions along. Next dog, sniff all you want, bud.

In case you’re not sure what to do when it comes to the topic of euthanasia ó like when is it really time, or what signs of “quality of life” to look for in your pet, or what exactly happens when we euthanize, or what you can do with your pet’s body or ashes afterwards ó know that I explain this all in the last chapter in both of my books, It’s a Dog’s Life Ö but It’s Your Carpet, and It’s a Cat’s World Ö You Just Live In It. The chapter is titled, “The vet and the pet.”

More importantly, find a vet who cares and can help to guide you through the toughest decision of your life.

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By Dr. Justine Lee, PetMD

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Paulinha Russell
Paulinha Russell8 months ago

Thank you

S J.
S J.11 months ago

thanks for good info

Teresa W.
Teresa W.11 months ago

thank you

Dawn W.
Dawn W.11 months ago

I have many heart-rending stories of lost pets over my lifetime and it is very painful. They were the light of my life, so genuine and accepting each one. But I do believe we will catch up again and reunite and be carefree together once more. Pets are living beings the same as we are and they feel and love the same and the quicker we all realise this the better off we will be. Thank you for interesting post.

♥(✿◠‿◠✿)♥*♥˚☻Love & Peace☻go with☻you all.☻˚♥*♥(✿◠‿◠✿)♥

Julie Gaines
Julie Gainesabout a year ago

I totally agree with you! I wish more people would be able to do this in their own home. W.O.L.F Sanctuary does this with all their rescues. Not only that, they allow the pact mates to say their own goodbyes. Afterwards, they have a beautiful ceremony celebrating their life. A memorial is then placed in a special spot.

Jinny L.
Jinny L.2 years ago

"With dignity"....sorry, but I'm still a mess!

Jinny L.
Jinny L.2 years ago

I know this response to this post is not timely but I had to put down my wise and beautiful 16 year old dog Rebecca today... .she was one of my best other best friend is Max her was one of the hardest things to do....Max cried...and actually jumped into her grave before burial. Of course, I was a complete mess! But it is not about me. It was the best thing for Becca.....The tears are still flowing and will for awhile.....she is now in peace without pain and dignity...she had incurable cancer. Becca will always be with my soul.....and I know I will see her again. Thank you for posting and listening.

Heidy Granados
Heidy Granados2 years ago

jamas desaparece el recuerdo pasan los dias, los meses, años.. y ellos siguen en nuestros recuerdos todos los dias :`D , muy bueno el articulo, me hace recordar momentos dificiles ..

Willow Sunstar
Willow Sunstar2 years ago

I lost my female leopard gecko to old age on Monday this past week. While I realize that many people think that non-furry critters aren't as easy to bond with, I must disagree. You can hold a gecko in your hand and pet it. It's not like a fish that lives in a tank and you have to keep it in water all the time. I sympathize with everyone else who has lost a beloved pet.

Lou McKellar
Lou McKellar2 years ago

Our 10 yr old Papillon passed away in her sleep on 5/23/13. We had her for 9 years. She was the first pet we had and lost.

A house is not a home without a pet. We will adopt again, but each family member is unique and a new one doesn't replace a lost.

My heart goes out to any family who loses a pet.