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Mr. or Ms. Wrong? Or Right?

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Mr. or Ms. Wrong? Or Right?

When you decide to begin dating with a purpose of finding a life partner, sometimes it is difficult to know how much time to put into dating one person to find out if they are “right” or “wrong” for you.  In past articles, I have talked about paying attention to your own “red flags,” but if the person does not have any “red flags,” how do you know if they are a fit for you or not.

Discovering if someone is a fit for you can be tricky, thus so many divorces in our country.  Creating a “wish list” of all the qualities you desire in a partner is key.  Once you have this list, as you begin to date, even if you are wildly attracted to someone, see if they have the main qualities that you are looking for in a life partner.  If they do not, muster up the discipline to walk away.  Being only wildly attracted to someone does not make for a long term healthy relationship.

Now, here is the tricky part.  You are dating someone, and they have most of the qualities that you are seeking, but you just do not find them attractive.  There can be one of two things going on here and only you will be able to decide, or you can solicit a friend to help.  The person is either truly not a fit for you, or you are not feeling attracted to the person because they possess the nice qualities you are seeking in a partner and this is foreign to you.  Although it sounds strange, we can be repelled by the very type of person we claim to want to partner with.  I believe that we are just not accustomed to feeling good with a partner because so often it has felt bad.

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Liz Dawn Donahue

Liz Dawn Donahue was recently married after years of dating. She is the CEO of Mishka Productions whose signature event Celebrate Your Life, brings together people from all over the world to assist in raising the consciousness of the planet. CelebrateYourLife.ORG


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7:39AM PDT on Jul 10, 2012


7:38AM PDT on Jul 10, 2012


9:57AM PDT on Jul 9, 2012

To me, there was no worry whether or not my husband was the right man for me. He was, and I knew within a matter of weeks. I can generally tell when I watch a couple if they are right for each other. I don't know, but it's the way they look at each other. They seem to make each other complete. Now, I know a lot of people are going to think this is romantic BS, but I have been married nearly fifty years, and it worked for me. Of course, my husband and I are similar people with the same values and the same intellect; that means a lot. A lot of people say opposites attract, and I am sure they do, but people who are alike mesh, and that's better.

1:53AM PST on Feb 25, 2012

love your articles

1:37AM PST on Feb 25, 2012

love your articles

7:55PM PST on Jan 9, 2011

The problem is putting all your eggs in one basket then repeating the same serial monogamous dating. Date and have opposite sex friends and date several. You will have more fun. It offers comparisons without using time and approach from positive point of view

11:13AM PST on Jan 4, 2011

thank you

3:57PM PST on Dec 16, 2010

there are people who think they might not find anyone else so they stick by those who are by their sides even if they are not in love, when people get older it happens so. they have no time for thinking about those things

1:19AM PST on Dec 11, 2010

I quote from this article " I believe that we are just not accustomed to feeling good with a partner because so often it has felt bad." I haven't had a long-term relationship for a long time now for exactly the opposite reason. I moved countries, so perhaps it has a lot to do with cultural differences.
But, as a friend said "Never say Never!"

12:17AM PST on Dec 9, 2010


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