My Divine Mate

You cannot have what you want until you know what it looks and feels like! Identify what you want and the experience you desire in a loving or intimate relationship. The goal is to be as clear as possible about what you want, the experience you desire, and what it will feel like.

This exercise will help you identify the attributes you would like your divine mate to have. It does not matter whether or not you are currently in a relationship, so don’t try to match what you want with what you may or may not have. Go for the gusto!

On each of the lines provided, use no more than five words per line to identify the attributes, not physical characteristics, you would like your divine mate to have. At the end of the section, complete the questions before you move on to the next section.

The word “attribute” refers to a person’s character, demeanor, frame of mind, what s/he likes to do, etc. For the purpose of this exercise, “attribute” does not refer to the way a person looks. The universe knows what you like and it specializes in precise delivery!

My Divine Mate

* My divine mate is

* My divine mate is

* My divine mate is

* My divine mate is

* My divine mate is

* My divine mate is

* My divine mate is

* My divine mate is

* My divine mate is

Group A
To be in a relationship with a mate who possesses these qualities would make me feel
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Group B
To be in a relationship with a mate who does not possess these qualities would make me feel
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My Relationship Wish List

1. My divine mate is (choose one word from each line of the attributes you identified in “My Divine Mate”).

2. When I am in a relationship with a mate who possesses these qualities I feel (choose and list one word from each line in Group A).

3. To be in a relationship like this would remind me of (identify a relationship or a memory that closely resembles your ideas of a divine relationship).

4. When I am in a relationship with a mate who does not possess these qualities, I feel (choose and list one word from each line in Group B.)

Adapted from Living Through the Meantime, by Iyanla Vanzant (Fireside, 2001). Iyanla Vanzant will appear at the Omega Being Fearless Conference, 3/31-4/2. For information:
www.eomega.org.

29 comments

Camilla Vaga
Camilla Vaga3 years ago

noted

Elena T.
Elena Poensgen3 years ago

Thank you :)

Elena T.
Elena Poensgen3 years ago

Thank you :)

Winn Adams
Winnie Adams3 years ago

Thank you for sharing

Melinda K.
Past Member 4 years ago

thanks

jayasri amma
jayasri amma4 years ago

Thank you

Zee Kallah
Past Member 4 years ago

Lord Kal HaAretz (Hebrew name for God of the Earth), I shorten it to Lord Kal whom a few of you may know. He is my husband.

Now for Christians who haven't realized that yet, check your concordance. There's many a scripture where he offers to be our husband. I took him up on it.

And what a husband he is!

WOW!!!

Michele Wilkinson

Thank you

Ida J.
Ida J.4 years ago

thanks

Zee Kallah
Past Member 4 years ago

Be careful of this.

I made a list of the qualities I wanted in a man.
I was, oh, about 17. Inexperienced and stupid.
I wanted a man who knew how to make money
without working for it. I'd have his time.

The man materialized.
a pimp

Years later, I wanted a man with good morals. Oh, I made a list that might possibly fit a saint.

The man materialized.

He made my next 20 years miserable as he tried to inflict his
morals on me. They weren't very rational.

Next time.....I wanted a relationship with someone whom I could help.

I met her. Disabled, abusive -- needed lots of help as she drew me into hell.

Now, if I find myself attracted to someone ---I'm outta here. NOW!!!