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Do High Expectations Sabotage Your Happiness?

Do High Expectations Sabotage Your Happiness?

March 1, 2013. I’ve been teaching class on Friday nights for 10 years now, which is hard to believe because the time has flown by. The reason I keep teaching on Friday is that, more than any other day, it is a day of recapitulation that makes way for a more easeful weekend.

It takes practice to stop leaking the events of the week into the weekend by judging them, evaluating them, comparing one week to the next and exhausting ourselves with over-analysis. On our Friday practice I ask that we relax our expectations. Come to the mat and don’t try to solve anything.

Another name for this type of expectation is Self-Judgment. This critical mindset of judging ourselves before a situation’s outcome, and again upon the result, only brings more disappointment. And what we practice toward ourselves, we also project outwardly–causing us to place heavy expectations on the people surrounding us.

We would do well to heed the advice of Eckhart Tolle in “The Power of Now” who writes:  “To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness. This state is then no longer dependent upon things being in a certain way, good or bad. It seems almost paradoxical, yet when your inner dependency on form is gone, the general conditions of your life, the outer forms, tend to improve greatly.”

Practice this mantra: May I see things clearly without making my happiness dependent upon my expectations.

Love yourself, love your day, love your life!

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11:55PM PDT on Jun 17, 2013

I think I am sabotaging my own happiness, thanks for this

8:22AM PDT on Jun 8, 2013

good advice

12:48AM PDT on Jun 1, 2013


12:56AM PDT on May 18, 2013

Perfection is for gods to achieve and for humans to strive for.

7:56PM PDT on May 17, 2013


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7:36AM PDT on May 16, 2013

Thanks for posting.

6:19AM PDT on May 16, 2013

Having high expectation may not spoil happiness but if we know to appreciate

3:08AM PDT on May 16, 2013


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