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Never Clear Your Clutter Without This Trick

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Never Clear Your Clutter Without This Trick

“It seems like every single one of the women in my circle of friends has a thing they want to do, or a big change they want to make but we’re all just… stuck. Nobody is moving forward on anything.”

This is how we started my class this morning and I thought, “Oh, wow, here we go.” It was the first group call for the new lot of “Sick of Being Stuck” students and before I could even get the recording turned on, she offered that explanation for why she signed up. She divorced a few years ago, went back to school, and is now working her new field and raising her kids. She loves her much smaller house and lots of things are really great but…

She just feels stuck.

Her big thing is the paper. Another student tells us that it’s the basement packed to the brim with boxes filled with all manner of assorted whatnot that didn’t get tended in a recent move. She can’t bring herself to open even one box. Another student has a series of tiny little spaces–a room at home (sharing the rest of the space with roommates), a car, and a cubicle at the office. It’s a professional shift that she is here to cultivate.

It’s been six months since this program started and I continue to marvel at the wild varieties of people and issues that are popping up, which is nothing when compared to the similarities we’re uncovering. This experience is a remarkable. We’re all just the same.

We get stuck for the same reasons –people die, marriages end, kids come or leave, or perhaps it’s a health crisis. We have dreams for something new but can’t figure out how to fit it into our lives. We set goals but the sameness keeps pulling us back into the old ways of being. And after we’ve outgrown parts of our lives, sometimes we stay put and the stuff stacking up around us gets too sticky to make a move.

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Christy Diane Farr

Christy Diane Farr is a catalyst. If that sounds like something you want more of in your life, visit 'The Greenhouse' at and join the Wildflower Evolution on Facebook.


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7:18PM PDT on May 4, 2013

Thank you

7:02PM PDT on May 2, 2013

Fascinating, thanks for the info

12:28AM PDT on May 2, 2013

Thank you, Christy. I seem to be getting little reminders all over the place that change is possible. I think you have to be brave enough to see the death of your old self - which happens each moment really - as liberating rather than horrifying, as an opportunity rather than a shutting down.

10:14AM PDT on May 1, 2013


4:02AM PST on Mar 1, 2012

If I clean out 1 drawer, by the time I get to the 2nd one, the 1st one is messed up again!!
Maybe it would work better if I pretend I am still in school and it was an assignment that I had to do one each day (LOL).

2:27PM PST on Feb 24, 2012

Getting rid of 27 items in the closet would be difficult to do all at once!! I've gotten rid of a few things at a time. Things I've had for years, (clothes). Many hadn't been worn for years yet I couldn't part with them. I still have some I've never worn and the tags are still on them. One day, I'll do something with them.

2:06PM PST on Feb 17, 2012

Thank you!

7:54AM PST on Feb 15, 2012

One of the reasons for such self-abasement after one's clutter clearing has been started - after just one drawer has been tidied up, for example - is because things look worse before they look better.
That has to almost become a mantra - in order to continue.

7:37AM PST on Feb 11, 2012

awesome thanks!

3:51PM PST on Feb 10, 2012


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