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Old Friendships are Good for the Spirit

Old Friendships are Good for the Spirit

Last week, I had coffee with a friend of mine whom I hadn’t seen in 15 years, when we were both sophomores in high school.  Amazingly, it felt as if little time had passed.  Of course we indulged in our fair share of reminiscing.  But what was truly gratifying about the reunion was the opportunity to realize just how similar out paths have been over the last decade and a half.

My friend and I have both struggled with disordered eating and body image issues.  We have both turned to meditation, therapy, and yoga to help us through out insecurities.  And we have both come to understand the value of authenticity and personal growth.  We were 10 years old when we met, and we had no way of knowing that we would grow into adults with such similar value systems.

In fact, I have been amazed at the resilience of many of my long-term friendships.  To be sure, friendships that develop in adulthood are extremely valuable, as well.  But there is often something very intuitive about friendships formed in childhood and adolescence.  At that age, we are likely choose our friends simply because we enjoy their company.  We do not choose them based on their professional accomplishments or the fact that they are willing to be our gym buddies.  At that age, we are often simply drawn to particular people because it feels good to spend time with them.

I realize this is not always the case.   Many people drift away from their friends as they grow into adulthood.  And many children and adolescents have their own less than authentic reasons for choosing their friends.  What’s more, many people, myself included, develop amazing friendships in adulthood.  But when we are young and our lives are not as busy, we have an opportunity to listen to our hearts and choose our friends because something about them resonates with us – not because their cubicle is next to ours.  And when we are in school, we are able to spend eight hours a day with them – time in which we can relate to them as real friends, not co-workers.

For those of us who are lucky enough to have found authentic friendships at a young age, it is worth maintaining those relationships into adulthood because they are likely to be based upon an intuitive impulse that led us to those particular people because something about them with which we connected a deep level.  In turn, these friendships provide a unique experience that nourishes the spirit.

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Sarah Cooke

Sarah Cooke is a writer living in California. She is interested in organic food and green living. Sarah holds an M.F.A. in Creative Writing from Naropa University, an M.A. in Humanities from NYU, and a B.A. in Political Science from Loyola Marymount University. She has written for a number of publications, and she studied Pastry Arts at the Institute for Culinary Education. Her interests include running, yoga, baking, and poetry. Read more on her blog.


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9:45AM PDT on Mar 14, 2013

so true

7:00AM PDT on Mar 14, 2013

Yes, indeed!

6:07AM PDT on Mar 14, 2013

They're for a life time

4:56AM PDT on Mar 14, 2013


2:29AM PDT on Mar 14, 2013

Thank you :)

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11:28AM PST on Nov 6, 2012

friendships are indeed precious

10:40PM PDT on May 23, 2012

i love true! i have several friendships i've maintained over the years and they are so important to me!

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