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Ooh La La – 6 Ways To Improve Your Sex Life

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Ooh La La – 6 Ways To Improve Your Sex Life

Do you long to have a juicier sex life but simply don’t know where to start? Have you quit even fantasizing about spicing up your sex life, moving beyond the missionary position, or feeling hot for your partner and yourself again? If you feel that way, you’re not alone.

After giving birth, suffering through my Perfect Storm, and completely losing my mojo, sex was the last thing on my mind. Plus, I tend to be so cerebral that I lose touch with my body completely for hours, even days on end. Then I started exploring ways to enliven the sexual creature within me. I took a class at Sheila Kelley’s S Factor (the pole dancing exercise classes that teach you to “feel your fur” and move like the sensual being we all are) and attended Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts.

Have my efforts transformed me into the evolved, divine sex goddess I long to be? No, not yet. But I’m getting closer. (Just ask my hubby.)

They say we teach what we need to learn, and this topic came up frequently when women submitted questions to me for my book What’s Up Down There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend (which launches September 28 — pretty please preorder now!).

I may not have it all figured out, but I got to interview a lot of experts while writing this book, and I learned a thing or two along the way that I’ve put into practice (with great results!). Here are some tips.

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.  She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.  Lissa blogs at and also created two online communities - and She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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10:20PM PDT on Jun 26, 2014

YES! Research. Nothing beats good RESEARCH.

Research this:

It has definitely helped our relationship. It was originally intended to just spice things up a bit, but for me it has changed my whole outlook on sex. It used to be that it was all about his pleasure and now it is about mine too.
This thread is the best thing ever, cause in my 25 years of having sex I have never felt like this.
My relationship with my DH has changed for the better, we were always close, but now it's like we've hit a new level.
Thank you soooooo much! Not really sure how I found this site but I am so thankful. My husband tried this last night and these were the best orgasms I have ever had.
My husband tried this last night and this was the best orgasm I have ever had. ...
My sexual confidence grew, he loved doing it to me and seeing my reactions. Now we're having sex almost every night and I have an average of 8-10 orgasms a night.
We are in our 40s and thought we had one of the best sex lives out there but OH BOY were we wrong! We are REALLY enjoying it now, thanks to finding this thread.
I will have to say that is was way more intense than I ever imagined!! THANKS again!!!

8:43PM PDT on Mar 29, 2014

Interesting.Very interesting.One more for the teenage boys to discuss and chuckle about. .Dimitris I hope your luck changes soon.

12:31AM PST on Jan 2, 2014

Thank you :)

2:56AM PST on Nov 3, 2013

Ooh la la... I have to find a partner first :)

11:45AM PDT on Oct 26, 2013


7:14AM PDT on Oct 20, 2013

Over the past several years, my wife has been on a journey of sexual self-discovery. By not being jealous, I have found that I can enjoy her journey enormously. Although I never meant to be judgemental, I was still surprised at my positive response to watching her have sex with other men or women. Adn when she did so in a more private way, I enjoyed hearing what had pleased her during those encounters. Our own sex life has been enhanced to a degree I never thought would be possible.

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6:55PM PDT on Jun 29, 2013

Bookmarking this one...

2:57AM PDT on Jun 21, 2013


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