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Oral Taboo
There’s something about rising out of the water that has a lot to do with our sexuality…It is vast, like a sea. –Joseph Campbell
Saying the words oral and sex in the same sentence will turn heads at almost any health or natural conference I attend. Even with a blush, most people will tune in and want to know more. Providing ideas and products that encourage them to have the conversation or better still, encourage them to have the experience at home, is a welcome conversation.
Oral sex is at once one of the most desirable sexual experiences and the one that still carries enough discomfort to call it taboo in some circles. There was a time when you could get arrested for it. Still in the vast sea of sexuality, developing a healthy connection and building skill to oral ways of loving have a power and passion unique in the world. Oral sex might be the most personal and raw act of intimacy that two people can give each other.
Despite the high level of intimacy and sensuality of oral sex, one of the most commonly asked questions is “How do you have good oral sex” or “How to do I have oral sex and not gag?”
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add your comment »I think most guys do, Winter. After all, a lady is not trying to dominate her lover when she asks him or her to do it to her.
It is some fun give and take with the right person. If he or she said yes, then refuses to return the favor DTMFA, as Savage Love suggests. LOL!
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It's definitely not about demeaning women. I like it because it feels good.
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Hi D! Sure some guys are dogs about it, but most aren't. And we don't have to have sex with narfy dudes. Have you tried toys that simulate the act, or just licking? You could also just use your hands if it is too much.
As long as you are both happy, that is cool. I hope he returns the favor of course. 69 might help as he'll be plenty busy trying to please you, LOL!
OK odd oral question, so prudes cover your eyes. How many guys like the replacements? Like watching your partner chow down on one of those er, man shaped chocolate lollipops?
Oh yes, they have a cream filling. I swear to Goddess ladies they sell them on Overstock now. Which is adult store heaven if you know where to look.
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Judging by the responses, I am definitely in the minority with not liking to give oral sex. Or those that do not like it are less vocal about it. Having a low gag threshold and being squeamish about body fluids really makes it unpleasant. I also feel like men use it to demean the woman so he can feel more dominant, especially as women become more equal and powerful with every generation. Fortunately my husband is considerate, and confident in his abilities and intelligence and does not demand it from me. We've reached a sort of compromise where the oral is there, but limited.
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Just my two cents: semen flavor, based on my experience, is much more based on genetics than food/what one eats.
I've had both meat eating and vegan boyfriends (neither coffee or alcohol drinkers). One vegan boyfriend ate a largely processed diet (NO fresh food or produce) and another (vegan bf) ate VERY well, balanced, with lots of raw produce (not heavy on onions or garlic). The latter had, by far, THE worst tasting semen of ANY of my boyfriends. It even smelled offensive so not even being able to inhale it's scent, I definitely couldn't consume it. Thank goodness he was understanding about it and didn't mind me not swallowing AT ALL. Previously, I had always swallowed my partner's semen without problem.
(Typical SAD dieters/Meat-eater's semen was of no consequence for me to have in my mouth and swallow.)
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Wendy, I noticed most of the article was about women's viewpoints on OS....my man doesn't want to perform OS at all, even though he is willing in his head, he can't seem to actually do it. He has a fear of 'liquids'...I'm shaved and clean, but it doesn't matter.
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To WV- we have similar feelings about BJs, but I feel it's Woman's Duty to swallow... but that's neither here nor there.... but I also get very uncomfortable about having another person go down on me... for me, it always feel the an appetizer to my using my vibrator!
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As long as we're being open about it... I don't mind giving it, never did (even back when it was never even whispered about) - but I will never EVER swallow.
More importantly, though, I don't derive much pleasure at all from being GIVEN o.s. It may be that my clitoris is simply too sensitive, but for myself I really REALLY prefer the "old fashioned" way. ;)
No contest!
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The article was well written with some thought behind it.
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Well I have to admit I was surprised at the column, but I applaud the author for putting forth such a well written article on the topic. I would much rather have my kids read her article then get their information from some movie or from their friends who are clueless.
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