Organic Sexuality: Rethink Sex to Recharge Your Life

 

We have become a nation of people who value organic food and slow cooking. We want to surround ourselves with food and fabrics that are locally sourced. We have become less about importing the exotic, and more about enjoying what comes naturally. Shouldn’t that apply to our sexuality too?

It’s time for organic orgasms and slow sex. Slow sex?  That’s right–this kind of sexing is less about running around the bases and all about slowing down, and planting the roots of our sexuality deep into rich soil that will nurture our relationship with our partners and with ourselves. When we shift our thinking around sexuality–from being goal-orientated to something that will grow and flourish over time–the most amazing experiences will emerge, and surprise us with delicious sustainability. Now, who doesn’t want that?

Hot sex is not about the latest “How To” book or video (as much fun as they can be). Instead I am offering you a new point of view when it comes to sexing–either with ourselves or with our partners. It’s really not about whether you have a G-spot, or clitoral, or vaginal orgasm. It’s not about whether as a woman you are able to have an “ejaculation,” or whether your partner does. There is just too much pressure out there–and it creates anxiety and goal-oriented sex.  And for the men – it is not about how long or even if you can hold an erection – soft penises have pleasure too.

Organic sexuality is the opposite of everything we have been taught about sex – which is get it done quickly and quietly.  This is all about intentionally trying to slow down–opening to pleasure in all the parts of your body–and letting go of the idea that you have to get anywhere!

How do you get started? If you are with a partner, start with a conversation. Make an agreement with your lover that you are going to try on something new. You are going to let go of the idea that each of you has to have the kind of climax you usually have. Instead, you are going to explore pleasure in touch and sensation. That is the only goal. You may find that you will experience a different type of orgasm. If you lover spends a very long time nibbling your entire body, you may find yourself in such a state of pleasure that you’ll be hanging from the rafters!

You are feeling your way up from a goal. Some of us feel that if we don’t achieve orgasm in each and every sexual encounter, that we have something wrong with us. This can create a very unsexy sexual anxiety that, of course, is not going to bring anyone pleasure.

By going organic, and diving into the world of slow sex, you will be letting go of any worry or stress that can take you out of your body and into your head. Of course, when you are stuck in your head it makes climaxing more difficult and less enjoyable. Anxiety about orgasm is a leading cause of erectile issues in men–the ability to relax and focus on sensation is essential for both male and female arousal.

When I talk about organic orgasms, or slow sex–what I am inviting you to do is to simply enjoy the pleasure of touch and sexual intimacy. How playful can you be with yourself, and with your partner? What sensations have you explored lately? There are so many different types of sensations that can happen for us during sexual arousal and through the very human experience of sexual intimacy–whether we are using sex toys, vibrators, fingers, mouths, or our genitals.

I am not suggesting that you give up orgasms. I am instead inviting you to expand your pleasure and till your soil. Let it be rich–and savor it all. If we can let go of goal-oriented pleasure, what we may find is that our climaxes (orgasms) may become even more amazing, delicious, and earth shattering than ever before!

When it comes to sexuality, there are few rules outside of safe, sane, and consensual. For me, it’s about simply being shameless.

56 comments

Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W.3 years ago

disgusting

Turid Kran
Past Member 3 years ago

Smiles!!

Chad A.
Chad Anderson4 years ago

I was inspired to have more fun...

Chinmayee Jog
Chinmayee Jog4 years ago

I really loved this article - it's so true, sometimes it's so important to slow down with your partner during sex, and not worry about the outcome. Can't wait to try this ;)

Faith Billingham
Faith Billingham4 years ago

great article, thanks for sharing!

Jan S.
Jan S.4 years ago

Thanks :-)

Leigh Anne Burnette-Turne

Nice article. I'm going to share this with my significant other.

Joanne M.
Joanne M.4 years ago

I think what is important is that both are satisfied.

TERRY R.
TERRY R.4 years ago

NOTED

Nagakrishnaraju P.
Past Member 4 years ago

Secrets to Steamier Sex

It may take two to tango, but it only takes one (that would be you) to make your sex drive dance. “Masturbation lets you know what your body is capable of and prepares you to share that with a partner,” says Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., author of Everything You Know About Love and Sex Is Wrong. ‘Think of it as the hors d’oeuvre that whets your appetite for the main dish.”

http://www.healthcarendiet.com/2011/02/22/secrets-to-steamier-sex/