I don’t know how to do that.
I know some seriously overwhelmed women. I know more than a few who actually want to hire me as their life coach but feel too overwhelmed to “take on another thing” and that, for hopefully obvious reasons, cracks me up. Too overwhelmed to hire a life coach is really overwhelmed.
Yesterday, one of these women finally reached out. For about 30 minutes she did what she called “dumping the huge box of her life onto my lap,” and trust me, there’s a lot going on in there. She is an artist with important messages to share with the world, one of which is a film. She has quite an intense day job, both to support herself and because she deeply values the work she does with her clients. Her home is in desperate need of restoration. Both of her parents depend on her (and her siblings) for physical and emotional support. Those are a few of the biggest chunks.
She has so much going on, or that she’s trying to get going on that she’s stuck in the middle of it all.
After I’d taken a quick survey of the contents of her box, and she finally took a breath, I jumped in to take my turn.
Are we agreed that it will take a series of miracles for all that you have coming through you to actually come through in your lifetime?
“Good,” I said, “because it will take miracles. The good news is that we live in a world where miracles happen all the time. And because you have so much on your heart/mind/whatever to do with your life, it’s safe to say that you are a miracle magnet.”
Despite having several miracle-ish experiences in the past, she was doubtful to say the least. Lately, it seemed that incredible amounts of “hard work” on her part resulted in nothing but trouble. For example, last year when she recognized that she couldn’t do a certain task alone, she recruited some help but despite paying out $1500, she ended up with nothing. Also, she’d worked her tail off applying for funding for a project and got nothing. Everything she’s tried to get these projects moving seems to result in more and more to do.
She has so much to do and try as she might, nothing is getting done.
You’ve got to stop trying to cultivate miracles alone. If the universe (God, etc.) seeks to deliver something through you, it will either be small enough to do alone or it will come with the supports to make it possible. Every time you meet an obstacle I hear you saying to the universe, “Okay, another obstacle… now I’ve got to find my way around it.”
When it requires a skill you don’t have, you think, “I have to learn that too.”
When it requires time you don’t have, you panic, “I have to find more time.”
When it requires money you don’t have, you fear, “This project will die if I don’t find a way to make more money.”
When it requires strength, you surrender, “If only I were stronger…”
Under these conditions, it’s far too easy to believe that you’re not enough, but that is a lie. Period.
You are enough. You are enough. You are enough.
Not, if you did more, you’d be enough. Not, if you did it right, you’d be enough. Not, if you were better, you’d be enough.
You are enough.