Years ago, back before I was obsessed with helping other people change their lives, I was pretty much a big fat mess myself. What is now my professional playground used to be my personal hell, but I know too many now-masterful teachers who first trained for their “area of expertise” in the gardens of their own lives. This is no accident. Growing into this role in this way lends itself to volumes of both compassion and practical problem-solving experience, and I’m grateful for those powerful tools.
My clients and students (and readers for that matter) often feel quite alone in their “struggles,” as if they are the only people in the world feeling this way and having these experiences. They come to my place feeling lost, overwhelmed, or invisible, and positively certain that they are, somehow, differently screwed up, and far more so than everyone else. It’s actually quite comical. We all think we are so special, even in our dysfunction. You’d think we could make that work for us.
Many who sign up for the clutter-clearing program, in particular, come in feeling downright ashamed. And it doesn’t seem to matter if they are living in homes that haven’t been open to guests for years, or if their home regularly hosts parties and travelers… who are forbidden from entering the master bedroom or attic or office or wherever else is stuffed to the brim with all of “the stuff,” the evidence that one is, in fact, stuck. They are artists and teachers, executives and real estate agents, stay-at-home moms and empty-nesters, retired folks and inspired young people, and literally, everybody in between. They are fabulous people who are finally sick of being stuck and without a clue as to what lies ahead, so they come together to make a change. (Can you tell I’m their biggest fan?)
I’ve noticed two tremendously freeing experiences that occur every single time a new round of classes begin. They are rather sacred epiphanies that, to be honest, I never dare to attempt to craft. They simply unfold, month after month, and I’m blessed enough to be a part of the magic as it changes everyone involved. Today, I heard that these treasures may be of value to those of you whose paths haven’t yet entered the groovy little garden of Seeds and Weeds Coaching.
The first key to freedom is the completely unexpected discovery that there are five or ten or twenty or fifty people who, just like you, have homes and/or lives that have become unruly enough to warrant paying for something called a Sick of Being Stuck class. Most of them are genuinely stunned to see that other intelligent, loving, functional people are in the same position. It is so easy to believe that we are the broken ones and that everyone else has it all together, but that’s simply untrue.