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A Dog’s Plea: ‘Don’t Pat My Head If You Don’t Know Me’

A Dog’s Plea: ‘Don’t Pat My Head If You Don’t Know Me’

I recently read a facebook status update written by a friend that read, “Please don’t touch my preggo tummy if you don’t know me.” I assume most pregnant women want to carry around a sign with those words. I also imagine that most dogs want to carry around a sign that reads, “Please don’t pat my head if you don’t know me.”

While most dogs don’t like being pat on the head, my dog, Sanchez, REALLY doesn’t like it. He often ducks and backs up, even from me – and I’m the person that cares for him, lives with him, loves him, trains with him, feeds him, and is his partner in everything dog. I’ve clicker trained him to tolerate it, as I know strangers will do it no matter what. His very large head is just a magnet to a human hand.

When greeting an unfamiliar dog, it is always best to:

1) Ask permission from their person

2) Let the dog make contact first.

3) Make small, slow movements. Rushing up to a dog could make him fearful.

4) Slowly pet him on the chest, underneath his head, instead of reaching over his head (which can be very threatening to a dog).

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Lisa Spector

Lisa Spector is a concert pianist, Juilliard graduate, and canine music expert. She is co-founder of Through a Dog's Ear, the first music clinically demonstrated to calm the canine nervous system. Their new high-tech pet gadget, iCalmDog, is the portable solution to canine anxiety. Lisa shares her home and her heart with her two "career change" Labrador Retrievers from Guide Dogs for the Blind, Sanchez and Gina. Follow Lisa's blog here.


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11:09AM PST on Dec 14, 2014

I always offer my hand to the dogs nose first if it's a dog I haven't met before.

10:34AM PST on Dec 13, 2014

great article. I so agree, pregnancies, dog heads ... and how about babies & strangers moving in so close to their faces!!!! back off, people. of course, I've been pregnant, I have dogs, and treat infants with the same respect and space that I want!

6:18AM PDT on Jul 8, 2013

thank you for the interesting article 8/7

5:15AM PDT on Apr 1, 2013

It reminds me of the person who thought he would get on with me by giving my horse a hefty pat on the nose. No! Hefty pats are OK on the neck, but the sensitive nose of a horse needs stroking gently. He didn't noticew her wincing, but I did.

3:24AM PDT on Mar 20, 2013

Very sensible advice. I'm lucky; my dogs will take any amount of patting, anywhere, any time.

7:28AM PDT on Mar 12, 2013


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12:37PM PST on Mar 9, 2013

Good advice. Didn't know about patting the chest, makes sense.Thanks.

11:37AM PST on Mar 9, 2013

I've never had a problem with this. I think maybe your dog has been hit on the head by someone, I do hope it wasn't you.

I must admit I always offer my hand to the dogs nose first if it's a dog I haven't met before.

8:02AM PST on Mar 9, 2013

I never knew that. I will greet them differently.

12:36AM PST on Mar 9, 2013

Good advice. Not only is it better for the dogs-but it might prevent bites.

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