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Positivity Bracelets

Positivity Bracelets

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.”  -Buddha

There is no more powerful or challenging change we can make in our lives than looking at how we think. The human mind generates hundreds of thousands of thoughts every day and, for most people, the majority of them are negative.  Negative thought patterns are so repetitive and familiar that often we don’t even witness them, or worse still, we accept them as the truth.

The remarkable thing about the plasticity of our minds is that changing our thought content is as simple as learning to watch and bear witness to our habitual negative thinking and deliberately replacing them with positive thoughts. Positive thinking is often mistaken for pie-in-the-sky happiness or overwhelming joy, which is too large a leap to make from the negative banter in our heads. Actually, positive thinking begins with thoughts like curiosity, openness and wonder. Choosing to not “know” allows for thoughts that can move you away from entrenched negative or judgmental thinking and open you to seeing your world in a new way.

I began wearing a positivity bracelet two years ago when I was seeking a way to change my own thinking.  At the beginning of this process, it can be overwhelming to begin to look at the number of negative thoughts that are leading your life. It was at this time that I discovered the idea of a positivity bracelet. The positivity bracelet links your negative thinking to a conscious, physical act of moving the bracelet from one wrist to the other and back again throughout the day as you mark your negative thoughts and replace them with something open and neutral.

As with any change of behavior, it is the first weeks of making the change that are most crucial. Some behavioral therapists suggest you can change any behavior in 21 days of consistent attention. Perhaps it depends on how long you have kept the habit and how strongly entrenched it is in you. For me, it took 82 days of wearing a positivity bracelet to replace the majority of my negative thinking with more positive thoughts.  Some days were discouraging, but like any good habit that nurtures what you are trying to develop, it feeds on itself.

The process is kind of like cleaning out an old closet that you can’t even see into. As you discard  the clutter of habitual thinking, you actually find a refreshing space of attention available to contain other more positive thinking. You have room to become your own friend, and slowly, day by day, this deep internal shift impacts everything you touch. The practice allows you to create and listen for the thoughts that will move you closer to the life you actually want.

I still use this practice two years later when I lose track of my positive direction. But now I am so fast at catching any negativity that comes up in me that I rarely slip down the slippery slope of doubt and fear.  Working with your thoughts is a way of life that begins with the abiding recognition that as you think – so you are.

This year, confident in the changes I have made in myself, I began to teach positivity at the local high school. It began as a Positive Charge group with the mission of transforming one of the interior courtyards in the school to a positive memorial garden and has slowly mushroomed into health class curriculum.  All the kids in the classes made their own positivity bracelets with wide rubber bands, each student added their own words to remind them of making the shift to more positive thinking.  Their results held up, and because these students were so young, after only a few days they could see the power of paying attention to their thinking.

This has emboldened me to get the whole school on board. Consequently, our Positive Charge club is selling wristbands. My grand experiment is to see how much positivity we can instill in the high school youth. I will keep you posted.

Soon, the bands will be available on goodcleanlove.com with a practical positivity training program. Expanding positivity is my continued resolution and I finally have the courage to watch the circles grow larger around me.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.

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4:37PM PDT on Mar 13, 2012

Words of Wisdom for sure.

3:50PM PST on Mar 5, 2012

How green are they...?

6:22PM PST on Feb 21, 2012

This can spread around the world like a virus, but so much better in the outcome:)

6:28AM PST on Feb 20, 2012

I wear my prayer beads every day and they serve the same purpose and help me to meditate and focus my mind any time I need to.

7:31AM PST on Feb 19, 2012

nice

11:23AM PST on Feb 17, 2012

Anything to create positivity, is a good thing.
Thank you for the article Wendy.

5:06PM PST on Feb 14, 2012

Wow- the Positive Charge group sounds awesome! Thank you for reminding me to think positive and for being such a positive example. Please do keep us posted with all the growing positivity news- it does compound exponentially! +

3:22PM PST on Feb 14, 2012

Thank-you for the post..might try to make one!

3:08PM PST on Feb 14, 2012

What a terrific idea! Thanks Wendy.

12:45PM PST on Feb 14, 2012

What a wonderful idea! Whatever it takes to free oneself from the rut of negative thinking is a good thing. For some people, special hand gestures (mudras) work. For others, touching something on them, like a bracelet, helps. Freedom from negativity is freedom indeed.

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