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Positivity Quest: A Summer of Gratitude

Positivity Quest: A Summer of Gratitude

Gratitude is a quality similar to electricity: it must be produced and discharged and used up in order to exist at all. ~William Faulkner

Every positive psychology text you will ever find will name the practice of gratitude as one of the most direct routes to reframing your thinking and increasing the positive aspects of your life. †For instance, like love,† it is impossible to feel afraid while you feel grateful.† Your brain cannot hold those two disparate thoughts simultaneously. And yet, thinking grateful thoughts is a qualitatively different experience than the moments of grace when gratitude takes over your heart and transforms your perspective.

Like orgasm or forgiveness, I have learned enough about gratitude to know that you canít force it. †All of these experiences share some fundamental characteristics Ė you can open to them, you can lean towards them in your thinking, you can invite a vulnerable space in your body to feel, but you canít force the experience. Still paying attention to what we want to cultivate is the most powerful use of our mindís eye and attention is often sufficient to make big changes.

So I am taking the summer gratitude challenge. Consider it an extension course of the positivity quest.† Every day I am going to practice holding my thoughts and leaning towards gratitude.† Maybe I will even wear a bracelet again to notice the times when I am not having grateful thoughts.† And every evening I will write about what I learned about gratitude and how it is changing my life.

I am excited for this next step of the positivity quest because I have a few mentors I have met through this endeavor who are living entirely blessed lives and the one thing that I believe to be most true about each of them is that gratitude, like love is the pulse that measures each beat of their lives.

Stay tuned and consider joining me on this summer of gratitude experiement. †It is the doorway to the goodness that is right in front of us.

See more of Wendy’s Positivity Quest here.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.† In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,† she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative advice.†It has been called "the essential guide for relationships." †The book is available on ebook.† Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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Great post. Thanks!

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