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Positivity Quest Day 152: Remembering Life on Earth

Positivity Quest Day 152: Remembering Life on Earth

Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future. –Lewis B. Smedes

Some days it is hard to bear witness to the world we have made.   The ongoing gush of petrol into ocean,  the killing of peace activists on route to bring supplies,  the ticking away of now a trillion dollars of resources for wars that have no end.  These were the headlines last Memorial Day, a day dedicated to memory. As we remembered those who were sacrificed  in our endless military actions, we should also remember that we continue to dedicate the better part of our collective resources to weaponry that is beyond most people’s imagination.

Most days the news is not conducive to my positivity quest.  Einstein said “Memory is deceptive because it is colored by today’s events” which explains why we have so much trouble changing course. We continuously select our memories to support our present.  Unfortunately this is also how we chart our future.  Our memory is the internal mechanism we use to interpret the events of our lives,  organizing and storing them in order to know ourselves. This is the principle way that we make meaning of our life which is why the Greek philospher, Aeschylus named “Memory as the mother of all wisdom.”

Wisdom comes when we process things that were hard to bear and remember their lessons.   We choose our memories of people we lost that we can hold close in our hearts. We interpret and remember the lessons of events that help us live with our actions.  This is how our memory is a relative of the truth,  and sometimes a distant relative.  Choosing to archive the memories that can lead us closer to our own truths  has everything to do with how and what we pay attention to.

If we honor the full truth of our present,  then we are willing to hold what is heart felt and heart breaking at the same moment.   The memories born of this internal struggle have the capacity to heal not only the past, but give us a path to a future that we can invest our hope in.  This is my lesson learned from this past memorial day and the only route to a positivity quest.

Read more: Holidays & Gifts, Inspiration, Peace, Spirit, Wendy's Positivity Quest

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.

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8:50PM PDT on Sep 12, 2011

Nice and thoughtful post. Thank you.

8:09PM PDT on Oct 3, 2010

Saying "I forgive" is hard for me. When I can do it, it's like I've been released from confinement and can breath fresh air. My heart and lungs expand. And then the illuminating gift of grace has room to bloom in my soul. Thank you for the positive.

2:40AM PDT on Jul 13, 2010

Thanks for the article.

10:31PM PDT on Jun 14, 2010

Just wonderful!!! Thank you :)

10:38AM PDT on Jun 10, 2010

thanks for the article

6:50AM PDT on Jun 10, 2010

thanks for sharing

4:45AM PDT on Jun 10, 2010

thanks for a very good post

7:10AM PDT on Jun 9, 2010

Thank you Dearest Wending. I was feeling so very drained as I spend all day litening to the news rather than beautiful music~while reading each and every article I can read...silly me. It is obvious that each and every article takes its toll. This morning I knew what would heal me~or at the very least fill my HEARTbreak of the negative energy that we have allowed~ our Mother Earth/insanity of cruelty of the Mother Earth...oh I need not put out any more examples as we all are drained and strained. I just kept reading posts...sending Stars...more Stars...more Stars! IF YOU GAVE A POSITIVE RESPONSE, and you didn't receive a Star, I publically send you one right now. DEAREST Wendy, once again I thank you. You are the Angel sent my way. I now know I need to go back to bed and rest. My body needs healing, and due to my exhaustion as I've not slept for 3 days...you and all you lovely people have helped me in ways you'll never know. BIG STAR TO YOU Sweet lovely Wendy! PEACE~Love~Light~BEAUTY, SuSanne

7:08AM PDT on Jun 9, 2010

Thank you Dearest Wending. I was feeling so very drained as I spend all day litening to the news rather than beautiful music~while reading each and every article I can read...silly me. It is obvious that each and every article takes its toll. This morning I knew what would heal me~or at the very least fill my HEARTbreak of the negative energy that we have allowed~ our Mother Earth/insanity of cruelty of the Mother Earth...oh I need not put out any more examples as we all are drained and strained. I just kept reading posts...sending Stars...more Stars...more Stars! IF YOU GAVE A POSITIVE RESPONSE, and you didn't receive a Star, I publically send you one right now. DEAREST Wendy, once again I thank you. You are the Angel sent my way. I now know I need to go back to bed and rest. My body needs healing, and due to my exhaustion as I've not slept for 3 days...you and all you lovely people have helped me in ways you'll never know. BIG STAR TO YOU Sweet lovely Wendy! PEACE~Love~Light~BEAUTY, SuSanne

7:07AM PDT on Jun 9, 2010

Thank you Dearest Wending. I was feeling so very drained as I spend all day litening to the news rather than beautiful music~while reading each and every article I can read...silly me. It is obvious that each and every article takes its toll. This morning I knew what would heal me~or at the very least fill my HEARTbreak of the negative energy that we have allowed~ our Mother Earth/insanity of cruelty of the Mother Earth...oh I need not put out any more examples as we all are drained and strained. I just kept reading posts...sending Stars...more Stars...more Stars! IF YOU GAVE A POSITIVE RESPONSE, and you didn't receive a Star, I publically send you one right now. DEAREST Wendy, once again I thank you. You are the Angel sent my way. I now know I need to go back to bed and rest. My body needs healing, and due to my exhaustion as I've not slept for 3 days...you and all you lovely people have helped me in ways you'll never know. BIG STAR TO YOU Sweet lovely Wendy! PEACE~Love~Light~BEAUTY, SuSanne

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