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Positivity Quest Week 3: Becoming Mindful

Positivity Quest Week 3: Becoming Mindful

The power of mindfulness is that it can literally sever the link between negative thoughts and negative emotions. –Barbara Fredrickson, Phd

Mindfulness is a Buddhist practice that has been handed down for millennia. Buddhism is both a historic spiritual tradition and a philosophy of life. Working with what is, the practice aims to the practitioner into a full experience of the present moment. For most of us, any given moment is so flooded with our perceptions, thoughts and judgments about what is happening that we often miss the actual event. So accustomed to the noise and chatter that our mind relentlessly produces we often can not differentiate the events of our lives from our personal spin on it.

Jon Kabat Zinn was one of the first medical practitioners to adapt this practice and introduce it to western medicine in the early 1980′s. His hospital adaptation called Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) defined the practice for the western mind thus: Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally. It’s like learning to watch yourself thinking. By stepping back and finding comfort as a self observer you gain the skill to watch the content of your thoughts calmly and with out the need to react.

This practice is skill based which means that we all have the internal capacity for it, and that it requires practice. Mindfulness actually creates more space and time in your brain. You are not lead by every passing thought–with time, the practice instills a grace period where you can watch a thought enter, take shape and leave your mind, much like a cloud formation moving through the sky.

Since the 80′s, extensive research has confirmed multiple physical and mental health benefits with the practice of mindfulness meditations. Everything from depression, chronic pain, anxiety and stress is reduced and immune functioning and healing in all areas is increased. Not only that, but the practice of mindfulness actually changes the brain itself. It decreases the circuitry linked with negativity and increases the circuits linked with positivity.

The developing science of neuroplasticity demonstrates that our brain is continuously growing and adapting. Training ourselves in skills that can harness this growth only makes sense if you are on a positivity quest. Learning to bear witness to our thoughts gives you a few moments to experience the feelings that automatically turn on with them. They are distinct experiences and ones that we have the capacity to choose and control for ourselves.

Most programs run for eight weeks. This is the time that it takes most people to see a consistent benefit and have enough embedded practice that they can make a practice of their own. Mindfulness programs are available in most communities and there are an abundance of digital medial available to learn the technique. It is a basic building block to freeing yourself from the chains that bind you. I am on day 21 of my own practice, and can see the changes happening in my processing and reaction time. There are places that still need more practice though–like with my teenagers.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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12:12PM PDT on May 16, 2010

This is sort of like dreaming your life in 3rd person.You are the guardian angel observing your life as you live each moment.Very good article.

9:17AM PDT on Apr 28, 2010


4:34AM PDT on Apr 26, 2010

Thank you very much!

11:29PM PDT on Apr 6, 2010

very helpful

11:16AM PST on Feb 18, 2010

Thank you.

11:52AM PST on Feb 16, 2010

very helpful article, thanks so much.

1:10PM PST on Feb 15, 2010

This is a well written article with good insights into meditation and mindfulness.

10:46AM PST on Feb 11, 2010

Nice post, Wendy. I don't teach, but as a Zen Buddhist disciple, I do instruct the basics of Zazen (sitting meditation). While instructing newcomers, I often use an analogy my teacher told me once: If you are sitting in meditation beneath a bridge, you may hear a car approaching. As it gets closer, you can feel its presence. Suddenly its presence surrounds you as it passes overhead and continues down the road. Meanwhile, you just sit and note "car". You don't get up and jump into the car and let it carry you away. Soon, the car is gone and you are back to just sitting (shikantaza). Mindfulness is like this. Thoughts approach and leave; the "trick" is not to get carried away by them. Gassho.

9:28AM PST on Feb 11, 2010

Good thoughts for helping us to become more receptive and open.

1:07PM PST on Feb 10, 2010

Good information. ty.

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