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Relationship Skills Quiz: Rate Yours

Relationship Skills Quiz: Rate Yours

Healthy communication fosters connection, trust, intimacy, and respect. It is all about knowing and being known. It is not about getting people to do what we want. Itís about mutually beneficial solutions. It is not about controlling what we feel. It is about feeling what we feel, and sharing what we feel and think in the present moment. This sort of openhearted sharing is ďrelating.Ē

Take a look at the fifteen statements, below. Which would you say? Which wouldnít you? Live and learn with this quiz:

Next to each statement, write 0 if it would rarely or never occur to you to say this, 1 if you might occasionally make this statement, and 2 if such a statement is typical of your style.

1. Hearing you say how that affected you, I feel sorry I did that.

2. I want you to listen and hear me out before responding.

3. Iím sorry. If I had it to do over, I would . . .

4. Tell me more about why you feel/think/see it that way.

5. I didnít mean to hurt you. What I wish Iíd been able to communicate is . . .

6. Iíd like to make it up to you/to make amends.

7. Could we sit down and talk about something thatís on my mind?

8. Iím feeling unfinished about that recent conversation between us. Could we talk about it?

9. I need some time before I respond to you.

10. I see it differently than that. May I tell you how I see it?

11. I think/favor/want . . . What do you think/favor/want?

12. I appreciate you for . . . (something this person did or said).

13. I want. . . How does that work for you? (Is this something you can give?)

14. I feel crummy about what just happened. Can we talk about it?

15. I notice myself getting defensive. I think Iím getting triggered.

SCORING
The highest possible score is thirty, and the lowest would be zero. The higher you score, the higher your likelihood of having successful relationships. here is a breakdown of what your scores might mean.

*0-9: You probably find yourself frustrated in relationships more often than you would like.

* 10-15: You have a high aptitude for relating and are open to learning.

* 16-24 You have good relationship skills and have the aptitude to take your skills to the highest level you wish!

* 25-30: Your capacity for present-centered relating is already at a very high level. Congratulations!

Read more: Guidance, Life, Quizzes, Self-Help

Adapted from Saying Whatís Real, by Susan Campbell, Ph.D. (New World Library, 2005). Copyright (c) 2005 by Susan Campbell. Reprinted by permission of New World Library.
Adapted from Saying Whatís Real, by Susan Campbell, Ph.D. (New World Library, 2005).

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14 comments

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12:01AM PST on Jan 23, 2013

Good quiz. Thanks

3:15PM PST on Jan 22, 2013

hmmm

8:51AM PST on Jan 22, 2013

Thanks.

4:33AM PST on Dec 26, 2012

thanks for the share

3:06PM PDT on Jul 2, 2012

great quiz(: thanks

7:39AM PDT on Jun 28, 2012

food for thought--always room for improvement

4:32PM PDT on Jun 26, 2012

thnx

8:42AM PDT on Jun 26, 2012

OUCH, now how do I increase my score?

1:45AM PDT on Jun 25, 2012

Thanks for the post.

5:23PM PDT on Jun 24, 2012

thanks

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