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In 2013, Let’s Stop Lying About Sex

I am hoping that in 2013 we can stop telling ourselves lies about sex. Case in point, check out The New York Times' Op-Ed columnist, Maureen Dowd who couldn’t resist jumping into the conversation a…

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Focus on Sexual Arousal, Not Orgasm

Everyone is talking orgasm. How to have a bigger one. How to get to that great big place of explosion. Just go to Amazon and put in that keyword and see the hundreds of books that will promise to g…

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Why Women Are Taking Retreats

Ask a girlfriend what they are doing for vacation, and you are likely to be immediately corrected. They are not going on vacation this year! This year they are off to take a retreat and often it is …

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Can You Be Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable?

Two of the men participating in the reality show "The Amazing Race" said that one of their keys to success is that they were comfortable being uncomfortable. BINGO. They nailed one of the most essent…

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It’s All About The Vagina

I want to stand up and testify for Naomi Wolf, and her new book Vagina: A New Biography. Because damn, is she taking it on the chin for speaking what I know, and so many others know to be the truth. …

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Getting Back to the Body in Sexual Healing

After scanning the literature on the human relationship with sex, I have come up with this very deep and profound conclusion: “Sex is hard.” And it may very well be the gateway for us humans to being …

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Keeping It Real & Sexy: 10 Relationship Tips

Are you in a relationship? Thinking about being in one? I have a few absurdly simple tips to share. They come from listening to countless people talk about their relationships in my sexuality coachi…

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My Mother And Her Vibrator

Three years ago, this Shameless Woman convinced my sister to go in on a vibrator as a gift for our mother for her birthday. I think my mom must have been turning 78 or 79 at the time. My mother is a…

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Sex & Body Image: Understanding Our “Core Erotic Wounds”

Someone who really knows me quite well recently said to me, "Pamela, you are a hot number. You are sexy and alive, and I don't think you feel seen that way." This statement took my breath away, as thi…

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Has the G-Spot Been Over-Marketed?

You know, well before Columbus discovered America people thought the world was flat, not round. If you asked anybody, that is what they would have told you because they had no life experience of a r…

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