Finding a path back to your source is a matter of letting life settle down to where it wants to be. There are gross and subtle levels of every experience, and the subtler levels are more sensitive, awake and meaningful than the gross.
As an exercise, begin to observe when you touch upon subtle levels in your own awareness. Notice how these feel compared to the grosser levels. For example:
To love someone is subtler than to resent or push the person away.
To accept someone is subtler than to criticize the individual.
To promote peace is subtler than to promote anger and violence.
To see someone without judgment is subtler than to criticize the person.
If you let yourself feel it, the subtler side of each experience puts the mind at ease, decreases stress, and results in less restless thinking and less pressure at the emotional level. Subtle experience is quiet and harmonious. You feel settled; you aren’t in conflict with anyone else. There is no overblown drama or even any need for it.
Adapted from The Book of Secrets by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 2004).