Do not ignore the emotional wounds you sustain in daily life. Do not believe that ignoring emotional pain is a sign of strength. Do not believe that feeling emotional pain is a sign of weakness or psychological frailty. Do not believe that being in touch with your feelings, knowing you hurt, and wishing you didnít diminishes you in any way.
Do not think of yourself as weak when you experience the pain of rejection. Do not consider yourself undesirable when you know the ache of loneliness. Do not punish yourself when you carry the burden of guilt. Do not lose faith in yourself when you encounter the bitter disappointment of failure. Do not lose yourself in the anguish of loss. Do not become crushed within the churning of brooding and rumination. Do not belittle yourself further when your self-esteem is already under assault.
Know that what makes you human is your capacity to feel emotional pain. Know that what makes you wise is your capacity to recognize you are not weak.
Know that what makes you strong is your ability to recover from emotional wounds and to become more resilient by doing so. Know that such wisdom, like all wisdom, must be learned and can be learned.
Know that your brain is wired to experience rejection as physical pain, and that there are ways to ease that pain and revive your self-worth in its aftermath.
Know that loneliness is a trap of self-protective but self-defeating behaviors that can push others away, but that it is one from which you can escape.
Know that you can elicit authentic forgiveness from others, as well as from yourself, and that once you do, your burden of guilt will lift.
Know that failure will cause you to perceive yourself and your goals in distorted ways, and that you must ignore these Ďgutí feelings and focus on the many factors that are in your control….Continue reading at InspireMeToday.com.
Guy Winch, Ph.D. is a psychologist, keynote speaker, and author whose books have been translated into thirteen languages.