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Resolving to Rest

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Resolving to Rest

What is without periods of rest will not endure. –Ovid

Rest is not the opposite of effort, it is the source, the nourishment, the energetic food for all that we aspire to accomplish. Most of us never really learn to savor the sweet release of rest, instead we give in grudgingly to our exhaustion, sleeping just enough to get up and start all over again, but never really surrendering to the empty, silent space that real rest takes up. I am not alone, not being one who rests. Our culture loves the rush, the frenzy of the chase; for most of us, resting is akin to laziness.

Our collective exhaustion is visible everywhere, although interestingly, according to a recent National Sleep Foundation study when life squeezes our time, it is our attention to our health and relationships that goes first. Work is reportedly the last thing to be sacrificed. Sadly one of the first things to go is our interest in and willingness to explore our sexuality. Being too tired for sex was the number one reason sited in a study of more than 1000 sexually active people. Not only the need for sleep, but the worry that you won’t sleep well often makes the idea of sex unappealing, which is ironic because sexual activity actually improves the ability to sleep for most people.

While resting can manifest in many forms, there is no more powerful restorative for the mind, body and soul than sleep. Even though our brain is never fully turned off, sleeping is the rest time for the brain, which allows it to recharge, repair neurons, archive memories and reorganize. Likewise, our heart, another organ which never stops working, also relies on sleeping periods to gain strength, maintain it’s flexibility and ease its daily workload by slowing down dramatically.

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Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative adviceIt has been called "the essential guide for relationships."  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


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7:17AM PDT on Jun 18, 2010


8:36AM PST on Feb 11, 2010

Thanks for this article!

9:20AM PST on Feb 9, 2010

It seems impossible- but I am inspired to try!

10:59AM PST on Feb 8, 2010

A big thanks to Wendy and Leonardo Da Vinci for the nice and helpful information.

7:55AM PST on Feb 8, 2010

I know the value of total rest but still allow too many brain stimulations in the room. Since I know sleep is my best friend, should I say I am my worst enemy?

6:49AM PST on Feb 8, 2010

I have all the time to rest... but most of the time I tend to be a late sleeper and a late riser..

1:46AM PST on Feb 8, 2010


7:02AM PST on Feb 7, 2010

thanks for the read

4:31AM PST on Feb 7, 2010

Rest... my illness wake my after evrey 5 hours of rest. =(

1:02AM PST on Feb 7, 2010

Love this article. agree wiht mandi

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