We all have opinions, but do you ever find yourself abandoning your opinion for the sake of making other people comfortable? I hate to admit it, but sometimes I do. In some ways, it’s one of my greatest strengths (the ability to see an issue from different viewpoints). This same strength can be a weakness, however, when I start to realize that I value everyone else’s opinion more than my own.
It’s a funny thing about self-confidence; ultimately, it can only come from within. But sometimes a pseudo sense of self-esteem comes from feeling like the pleasant and agreeable person. It’s quite easy to become the person who everyone likes when you don’t have a solid opinion on anything. The question is, though: is that really who you are?
Real self-confidence is all about the courage to accept yourself. It’s about being genuine and standing for what you believe in. It’s about having the courage to say what you mean, even if it’s unpopular or the outcome is unpredictable.
This doesn’t mean asserting your opinion on every single little thing or leading a protest in your living room about picking Restaurant A over Restaurant B. But it is about speaking up about the things that matter — and those things don’t necessarily have to be negative.
A lot of times, we think that we must only speak out about injustice or if we feel personally violated. But it’s just as important to speak up about positive things, too. How many times do we think kind thoughts about someone but fail to tell that person? How many times do we admire how a person handled a situation and never say a word? How many times do we let the people around us know how much we appreciate them?
It’s easy to talk ourselves out of building another person up, especially because we may fear of what the other person thinks of us. We convince ourselves that other people would be uncomfortable with us appreciating their presence or contributions when really, a genuine compliment feels so nice and can brighten that person’s day.
Start taking the time to appropriately express your thoughts and feelings instead of disappearing behind what you think other people want. Start verbalizing the appreciation you have for the things around you — big and small. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll inspire someone else to do the same.
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