Scared? 5 Tips for Using Fear as Fuel

Recently I have been thinking about fear and how it relates to behavior. We typically avoid things that scare us, which, of course, makes perfect sense. We have evolved an instinctive fear of threats and this avoidance behavior is ingrained in us as a way to protect us from harm. However, as is often the case, in the modern world our natural biological defenses can unnecessarily hold us back from deep fulfillment. Many times, that which we instinctively fear can actually be harmless, or even a blessing.

But in order to assess a fear I have found that you have to unpackage it first, to really consider its components and sources, and to figure out whether itís worth ignoring. By way of example, I recently experienced some fear in dating a man who is unable to walk. When I really thought about my reaction I realized that it was simply a fear of the unknown. Until then, I hadnít known anyone who was confined to a wheelchair, or even anyone who had dated someone who was in a wheelchair, so I had no direct understanding of what either role would entail. It occurred to me during this un-packaging of my instinctive reaction just how many fears are a result of ignorance of the unknown.

The moment was an epiphany. It occurred to me that wars have started because of this sort of xenophobic reaction. Racism, homophobia, misogyny, anti-semitism ó †many of the worldís ugliest prejudices can result from an instinctive fear of the unknown. When we donít understand something we often create a mental scenario based on what we do know, and unfortunately it is almost invariably inaccurate. What I learned by spending time with him was that my pre-conceived notions were seriously skewed and unjustifiably negative. †Once I took the time to begin to see things from his perspective many of my preconceptions ó and fears ó melted away. The only solution to fear of the unknown is to learn to relate, to make an effort to understand life within the sphere of the unknown.

As with everything I write about, fear has huge implications for how you live your life and approach your business. Fear can be something that keeps you from moving forward, from being all that you can be. When you forgo an opportunity, remember, it just might have turned out to be something life changing, or something that you would have loved ó you just donít know. The key is determining whether your fear is borne out of a real danger, or if it is simply the result of apprehension in facing the unknown. In business growth, itís most likely the latter, not the former. Having a strategy to face fear and move through it can be a huge tool for success. Here are 5 suggestions that may help you get started:

1.† Think about your fear, dissect it, and try to determine if itís a fear of the unknown or a real danger. Personally I am not motivated to bungee jump, it feels like too much of a threat to my life and I am happy to forgo that experience. But if you establish your fear originates from uncertainty then that is a sign to explore it further.

2.† Learn about it. Do some research. What do other people say about this fear when they experience it? What are the pros and cons of tackling this fear? Letís say itís public speaking. What would the impact be on your career or life by focusing on this? Have you gotten positive feedback but are just scared to do it?† These can be signs that this is something you should push for.

3.† Ask a lot of questions. Find other people that have tackled whatever you have fear about and ask them how they approached it. What are the rules of the road? What are some tips, tricks etc.?

4.† Find someone to do it with you. When we resist doing something itís easy to let ourselves down. Itís much more difficult to let someone else down. When I am feeling less motivated to workout, I make a workout date. There is no question whether or not I will show up ó I will.

5.† Recall how it feels once you have tried conquering your fear. Most people will say that facing a fear is one of exhilaration. I know from personal experience that the things or activities that I fear and conquer end up being some of my proudest moments.

Some fears you know and can plan for. Others just pop up out of nowhere, like my dating scenario. What I have learned is that itís instinctive to run from the unknown. Thankfully my curiosity is stronger than my fear and I am learning that my fear can be an indicator for something new to explore.

This can also be a huge benefit in growing your business. Itís easy to get in a rut and stick to the strategies that you know. I am challenging myself to learn some new tactics and make them right for me. I challenge you to do the same. Use the New Year as a reason to stretch yourself, to attempt a new marketing strategy, to try a new activity that scares you. And if you need help getting motivated, or creating a new marketing paradigm, or strategy for business growth, call me. I am cooking up new and creative approaches and I would love to help you do the same. Business growth is fun and itís tied to your own growth. Join me!!

Related:
Gratitude Trumps Fear
3 Exercises to Reduce Fear and Anxiety

61 comments

Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson4 years ago

thanks

Debbie Crowe
Debbie Crowe4 years ago

It seems the older I get, the more fears I have. I could do almost anything when I was younger, but now I hesitate because I don't know if my body can handle it. I had a heart attack a few years back, so now I have to careful of what I do. I don't like this getting 'old' thing.

Debbie L.
Debbie Lim4 years ago

Thanks. I'll keep those tips in mind :)

Kiana Siino
Kiana S4 years ago

Sounds like a bunch of good tips for life as well as business! Thanks for the article :)

Hanna Barney
Hanna Barney4 years ago

i really hope this works, cause i am still afraid of heights....

Winn Adams
Winn Adams4 years ago

Thanks

Zee K.
Past Member 4 years ago

"The subject matter (of religion) is extremely sensitive - guess that's why it can create deep emotion in everyone. Thus a precious friend said to me."
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I also think it is because religion (not spirituality) has been a primary force to subjugate and enslave the peoples of Earth. Introduce a mystery, scare them to death with the most awful
imagined thought pictures possible, make it a crime to do otherwise than obediently baaaa, no thinking for yourself allowed. And the 1% reign in power. Anyone disagrees...burn them!

This is true both of the Catholic and the Protest ant churches. The history of both factions is bloody.

I spent many years working in the mental health system. I learned, and had an opportunity to prove true, trauma is passed down through the genes to the progeny of many generations. Consequently, often, when heresy is presented, the genes in the physical body go into terror. The brain's functions go to minimum and it's fight or flight.

When atheists and ardent would be evangelists meet, terror fights with arguments and words.
Just below anger, there is fear, just below fear there is grief then comes apathy.

Laura Garnett
Laura Garnett4 years ago

@Deborah - Hear Hear!!! Yes!

Thank you all for your comments and thanks.. loved writing this article!

Patriczia P.
Patriczia P4 years ago

A book for your consideration:
Send Lite to Every Fear: The Everyday Hero's Litany
http://www.sendlite.com/

Deborah D.
Deborah D4 years ago

Prejudice and fear are often caused by
people who do not wish to "think outside
the box". May we have more progressive
thinkers who do not worry about what others
say about them