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Science of Sex: What’s Your Type?

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Personality, looks, similarities—all play a role in determining our ideal type. There are also sociocultural considerations. For instance, there’s evidence to show that adherence to a masculine or feminine gender role is linked to a preference for certain qualities in a mate. A 2011 paper in the Journal of Social, Evolutionary, and Cultural Psychology notes that hyperfemininity, which is a “strong adherence to traditionally feminine attitudes and beliefs,” is characterized by a marked preference for more traditional and stereotypical male/masculine behaviors and a higher tolerance for male sexual aggression and coercion. Hypermasculine men may also tend toward women who display stereotypical “female” qualities.

While it may be hard to curb your enthusiasm for tall, lanky artists, it’s clear that breaking away from what we consider our “types” can be a good thing. If always going for the bad boys leaves you perpetually heartbroken, or if you’re bored by your similarities with the on-paper matches, perhaps try something that doesn’t fit the mold. It can require overlooking Tevas with socks or seeing eye-to-eye (literally), but widening the dating pool certainly can’t hurt.

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7:17PM PDT on Jun 29, 2015

Interesting article but I think it was too simplistic. Relationships need to be nurtured and allowed to change. Thinking that your romantic solution is to find the right type of person narrows the field and might prevent you from getting involved with someone who is perfect for you.

9:36PM PDT on Jun 27, 2015

Interesting. Opposites might attract but if you are too different as time goes on you tend to loose interest. It's nice to be able to share your likes with your partner.

6:06AM PDT on Jun 27, 2015

@ Lee R. " I have never understood the attraction to "bad boys" Me either. Especially when ANY "bad boy" is in prison for the most horrible crimes imaginable and women show up to show extreme love and support for him, Example; Manson, whose girl gang continued to love even when his actions had put them in prison, and even when aged and ugly, had a young loving woman come to be his bride. On the "opposites attract" theme, when I lived in Norway and Sweden years ago, girls showed their tongues to the few black men there. They showed no interest in me, an uninteresting white guy. When I asked why black was in, the answer was "Contrast, contrast. I noticed a black girl and found her presence so odd that I spoke with her out of curiosity. She was from Aruba and guess what ?

11:02PM PDT on Jun 25, 2015


7:04PM PDT on Jun 22, 2015

Like attracts like but variety is the spice of life. I have had the most success with women like me in key ways but different enough to allow for a lot of interest.

7:48PM PDT on Jun 21, 2015

Intelligent and compassionate. Sense of humor and a love of animals also a big plus. Smokers, Republicans, and bullies - no effing way.

I have never understood the attraction to "bad boys" -- or bad girls, for that matter. The salient point is "bad." Also, boys and girls = immature, and when they grow up (and most don't) they're still bad. Not usually a good bet for a lasting relationship.

12:03PM PDT on Jun 17, 2015

Rember this

12:59AM PDT on Jun 16, 2015

Homophily, even though they say opposites attract.

3:54AM PDT on Jun 7, 2015

I choose like a zombie: braaaaiiiiiiinssss

9:39AM PDT on Jun 1, 2015

Thank you

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