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Searching For Your Inner Wild Woman

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I long to have a sincere relationship with that primal part of myself, that which Estés calls the Wild Woman. I’ve only encountered her in a handful of rather extraordinary moments throughout my life but I can feel that finding a way to align with that energy regularly, to bring forth the spirit of the Wild Woman, is an essential part of my healing.

Within the first few pages, I found the excerpt that follows. I felt both stunned–that someone I’ve never met could so accurately describe this longing–and deeply affirmed–that my intuition was right about what I needed in order to continue healing.

What are some of the feeling-toned symptoms of a disrupted relationship with the wildish force in the psyche? To chronically feel, think, or act in any of the following ways is to have a partially severed or lost entirely the relationship with the deep intellectual psyche. Using women’s language exclusively, these are: feeling extraordinarily dry, fatigued, frail, depressed, confused, gagged, muzzled, unaroused. Feeling frightened, halt or weak, without inspiration, without animation, without soulfulness, without meaning, shame-bearing, chronically fuming, volatile, stuck, uncreative, compressed, crazed.

Feeling powerless, chronically doubtful, shaky, blocked, unable to follow through, giving one’s creative life over to others, life-sapping choices in mates, work or friendships, suffering to live outside one’s own cycles, overprotective of self, inert, uncertain, faltering, inability to pace oneself or set limits.

Not insistent on one’s own tempo, to be self-conscious, to be away from one’s God or Gods, to be separated from one’s revification, drawn far into domesticity, intellectualism, work, or inertia because that is the safest place for one who has lost her instincts.

To fear to venture by oneself or to reveal oneself, fear to seek mentor, mother, father, fear to set out one’s imperfect work before it is an opus, fear one will run on, run out, run down, cringing before authorers, loss of energy before creative projects, wincing, humiliation, angst, numbness, anxiety.

Afraid to bite back when there is nothing else left to do, afraid to try the new, fear to stand up to, afraid to speak up, speak against, sick stomach, butterflies, sour stomach, cut in the middle, strangled, becoming conciliatory or nice too easily, revenge.

Afraid to stop, afraid to act, repeatedly counting to three and not beginning, superiority complex, ambivalence, and yet otherwise fully capable, fully functioning. These severances are a disease not of an era or a century, but become an epidemic anywhere and anytime women are captured, anytime the wildish nature has become entrapped.

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Christy Diane Farr

Christy Diane Farr is a catalyst. If that sounds like something you want more of in your life, visit 'The Greenhouse' at and join the Wildflower Evolution on Facebook.


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6:01PM PDT on Mar 20, 2012

thanks for sharing this, received the book as a gift awhile ago, read it, shared it, and still on my bookshelf

2:10AM PST on Feb 9, 2012

'Fear to set out one’s imperfect work before it is an opus.' That went 'ouch' the most!

Thank you for this. You've made me want to re-read the book - and perhaps, like you, to read it slowly this time.

I wish I could've been part of your study group, but I don't do Facebook. (Care2 takes up quite enough time - if I did FB too I'd never get anything done, perfectly or otherwise...)

4:57PM PST on Jan 25, 2012

Thank you so much.

10:33AM PST on Jan 18, 2012

Both men and women need to find their authentic selves, discovering and taking notice of what they feel in each different area of their lives and then acting in accord with it. The 'wild' is the natural personality, the inner spirit, freed from artificial constrictions imposed by social conditioning and reinforced down the generations. As many wise instructors tell us, it's all about WAKING UP.

12:04AM PST on Dec 19, 2011

Hey, inner wild woman, where are you!
Did you get integrated? lol

Hey, Zee, whatta ya want?
I've been out in the hills
hunting game.
Howling at the moon.
I know "I don't eat flesh."
Well, I do.
See ya.

8:52PM PST on Dec 9, 2011

I read the book and loved it.

12:35AM PST on Nov 29, 2011

Bit negative.

5:36AM PST on Nov 28, 2011

good book!

2:07PM PST on Nov 21, 2011

still looking -:)))

5:16PM PST on Nov 19, 2011

It resonates with me. I feel as though my life has become stagnant and I've lost the flow. Thank you for this article, I've never heard of this book, but it's going on my list now.

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