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One of the most effective ways to bleed our spirit-energy away is to impale ourselves on the twin swords of blame and non-forgiveness. Therefore, the ability to forgive ourselves is essential to our soulís growth. Forgiveness originally meant ďto return good treatment for ill usage,Ē which reminds one of the beautiful saying: “Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the hand that has crushed it.”

“To err is human, to forgive, divine.” How to forgive oneself?

We are all susceptible to human failings. Weíve all pointed the finger of blame at ourselves and others and trotted out an inner perfectionist to bludgeon ourselves with guilt and shame. We have crushed the delicate violet of anotherís feelings and trampled our own under the heels of unrealistic demands.

Our souls are no strangers to forgiveness, for they have basked in the benediction of Godís forgiveness for eternity. Difficulty in forgiving means that we have slipped from the heart of God into our human heads or guts and are no longer centered in the ground of our being, which is unconditional love.

By becoming aware of the skid away from our higher self, we can move back into our hearts. Even though it may sound too good to be true, we can return to our heart by merely asking to do so and accepting that it is done. Remembering to pour the fragrance of Godís love and acceptance upon ourselves will set the stage for our ability to forgive the hands that occasionally crush us.

Forgiving ourselves allows us to create a garden of violets that will perfume our own and otherís lives with the fragrance of love.

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Adapted from The Womanís Book of Spirit, by Sue Patton Thoele (Conari, 2006). Copyright (c) 2006 by Sue Patton Thoele. Reprinted by permission of Conari Press.
Adapted from The Womanís Book of Spirit, by Sue Patton Thoele (Conari, 2006).

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1:21AM PST on Jan 4, 2013

Thank you :)

10:59AM PST on Dec 7, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

2:39PM PDT on Sep 2, 2012

good tips

9:32AM PDT on Aug 26, 2012

"Forgiving ourselves allows us to create a garden of violets that will perfume our own and other’s lives with the fragrance of love."

That's nice...

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6:48AM PDT on Apr 21, 2012

Informed...Thank you...

2:05AM PDT on Oct 11, 2011

Thank you

3:06PM PDT on Sep 20, 2011

great article, thanks for sharing :)

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