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Sex and Success: Is There a Correlation?

Sex and Success: Is There a Correlation?

There is great power in our sexuality. Perhaps that’s restating the obvious — from glossy seductive advertisements guiding our purchases to the trysts of the rich and powerful that change the course of human history, evidence of the social, cultural, political, and financial impacts of human sexuality is all around us.

In fact, the potent influence of sexuality on our culture and collective direction is so strong that we tend to take it for granted. However, I believe that we may actually tend to underestimate the power of sexuality that lies in us as individuals.

In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill writes, “Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires. When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times.”; “Love, romance and sex are all emotions capable of driving men to heights of super achievement. Love is the emotion, which serves as a safety valve, and insures balance, poise and constructive effort. When combined, these three emotions may lift one to an altitude of a genius.” Napoleon Hill discusses evidence that many powerful, creative people have achieved incredible things by channeling their sexual energy into their other pursuits.

To me, this is an incredibly powerful observation. But it’s also a difficult one for most people to act upon, as many people aren’t comfortable discussing sexuality openly or in such terms. The effects of our puritanical roots are still evident in our culture, restricting discussion about the critical importance of our sexuality. In turn, this lack of discussion creates a gap in understanding and prevents most of us from knowing the benefits of having a healthy sex life or its potential impact on our success. In fact, I have to admit, coming from rural Virginia where such things aren’t discussed, part of me used to feel nervous posting on the topic in an open forum, where it could be read by my family and family’s friends.

Fortunately I’ve been lucky enough to have had experiences that raised my awareness and allowed me to see the importance of moving past these cultural barriers. In fact, one of the most powerful lessons I have learned in my life was during my divorce when my therapist told me that “Sex is the heart of a marriage, a barometer for the health of the connection” What? I sat stunned, having tried so hard to do everything to salvage my marriage. How could I have missed out on that important piece of information? How could something so obvious and significant have passed me by?

I had failed to see the crucial importance of sex in my relationship. My ambitious nature had discounted it as a key to improving my over-all well-being and therefore my success. The valuable lesson I learned is that sex is an essential component of who we are, and sexual activity is one of our basic functions just like eating and sleeping.

So how can sex bring you success?  There are many ways, and you will have to engage in some self discovery and trial and error to discover the formula that allows you to tap into your potentially hidden sexual energy. Regardless of your partner status, the first step is awareness. As soon as you see this part of yourself as a valuable resource, ideas will come. Prioritize it, refer to my article on pleasure and create a pleasure strategy. The more you focus on your own aliveness, the more accessible your sexuality will be. It will bubble to the top when you are living fully and are joyful.

Additionally, a loving relationship that has a healthy sexual connection is a HUGE secret weapon for success. Especially if it’s one that is alive and you are constantly learning and growing from it. The important lesson here is that sex and love combined is the secret sauce. Like any pleasurable activity, if you are not in love with yourself and fully engaged with it, you will not see as much benefit.  Great connected, loving sex can be the fuel you are looking for that next big idea or inspiration you need to start a new product or offering. I challenge you to think about it and remember that sexual desire is one of life’s most powerful forces. If you are not aware of this and not leveraging it, you may discover that it’s something that can supercharge your energy and creativity thus impacting your business results.

Napoleon Hill presented statistics that the most successful men of all time had equally satisfying sex lives; the data speaks for itself. For further evidence just observe how deflating a lackluster relationship or one with a  non-existent  sex life can be for someone in comparison to the couple full of desire and energized by a healthy relationship and sex. I don’t have to tell you how different their energy and zest for life can be.

Why would you ignore a secret resource that is free and potentially at your fingertips and could super charge your ability to succeed? I can’t imagine any business-minded person saying no to that. So go ahead, put some energy in cultivating your sexual energy, I am willing to bet you will have fun, please your partner AND see your business prosper.  What could be better (or more fun) than that?

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Laura Garnett

Laura Garnett helps service driven, small business owners get clear on what their unique brand essence is. She then helps them grow their businesses in a way that is right for them and makes them happier and more successful. She combines business with pleasure because happiness is a key to success. She also interviews inspiring people about their path to success.

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4:29AM PST on Mar 4, 2012

The only other two things on Earth more obsessed with gain, victory and domination than humanity, white Anglican men in particular, are cancer and viruses.

3:54AM PST on Mar 4, 2012

Jonathan N., I agree! What a weird article! Are we truly to believe that people who have sex because they think it will make their businesses successful are in happy marriages?

4:21AM PST on Feb 25, 2012

thanks for sharing.

8:04PM PST on Feb 23, 2012

Interesting

5:25AM PST on Feb 17, 2012

I will try to work harder on my success and hopefully I can enjoy this at the same time, even if it only amounts to a correlation!

8:20PM PST on Feb 15, 2012

"Why would you ignore a secret resource that is free and potentially at your fingertips and could super charge your ability to succeed? I can’t imagine any business-minded person saying no to that. So go ahead, put some energy in cultivating your sexual energy, I am willing to bet you will have fun, please your partner AND see your business prosper. What could be better (or more fun) than that?"

Way to make finding and maintaining a robust, sexually charged relationship sound like buying a loaf of bread.

6:21PM PST on Feb 15, 2012

Teresa W.- what the F***k are you doing looking at Care2 articles when it makes you say "Yuk" & "Nasty" all the time? You make me pity you. Does that feel good- that you are pitiful?

ANYWAY, I'm not so sure if this theory is right all the time. My roommate & I had some fabulous sex today, & it was only because we're too broke to do anything else.

11:37AM PST on Feb 15, 2012

Interesting theory.

8:23AM PST on Feb 15, 2012

Teresa W., I don't think that's what the author meant at all. I have to agree with what you (the author) said... and have to keep working on this in my own life.

7:27AM PST on Feb 15, 2012

Yuk. I bet you mean doing disgusting things in both sex and business.

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