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Spirit To The Rescue!

Spirit To The Rescue!

What if the pain that seems to be yours is really not yours? And here I do not mean to belittle personal suffering, but only to offer a larger perspective that may help alleviate it.) The truth if that fear and anger exist outside ourselves. They are not yours or mine, unless we attract them.

Negativity is an invisible parasite. It needs a host to feed off of, and the host is the ego. When you learned as a young child to cling to my toy, my candy, my pleasure, my happiness, at the same time your ego started clinging to the opposite: my scraped knee, my broken doll, my sadness, my pain.

Absorbing an experience as “mine” was how you built your self up, developed a sense of individual identity. As we grew, we learned to see this self in a larger perspective, in the context of humanity. But when tragedy strikes, we often regress to this early state.

To counteract this, we need to find the spirit. For spirit can do one thing that your ego craves very deeply and can’t accomplish on its own. Spirit can help the ego escape that painful trap of I, me, and mine. It is strange but true that the very mechanism that builds the isolated self also wants to escape it.

The ego wants the best for “me,” yet there is another, subtler force that wants the best for all (which ends up best for me, in the end). Allow this force to express itself, and you will discover that the walls of isolation are not as solid as your suffering makes them seem.

Compassion comes from the root words “to suffer with,” and for that reason many people actually fear it. Compassion is one of the most honored and saintly feelings because it marches up to the front lines of suffering and says, “Take me.” In this giving of oneself there is a direct experience of pain, yet in the giving there is love.

Thus compassion has the power to dissolve pain by not avoiding it, but by trusting that love affords the greatest protection. By discovering that there is a reality – love – stronger than any pain, you mount your strongest defense.

Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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1:45PM PDT on Apr 15, 2012

Now why is it that this must be about generalized pain? Not only everybody's pain but every pain that everyone feels must come from as broad a field of reasons as there are people to feel it. There is no such thing as universal pain with a single cause. It is an individual's reaction to individual circumstances.Sometimes some of us do get lost in others pain for , again, as broad a field of reasons as there are individuals to experience it. From miss informed empathy where without awareness one is swept up in an others feelings to the assumption of pain causing attitudes that don't originate in our personal reality. One may adopt hatred or guilt that will cause us pain though their origin isn't native to our own experience. Pain in this mortal existence is inevitable and this is good advice for not being subsumed in it.

1:00PM PDT on Apr 15, 2012

"What if the pain that seems to be yours is really not yours? And here I do not mean to belittle personal suffering, but only to offer a larger perspective that may help alleviate it.) The truth if that fear and anger exist outside ourselves. They are not yours or mine, unless we attract them."

Oh oh, do I hear a "shaman" talking? Pain is not "yours"? So is it transferable into somebody else's account? Can we start a lottery and win somebody's PAIN? Great idea,
sounds like a money maker. So PAIN is not YOURS or MINE, it's JUST OUT THERE IN SPACE and WE ATTRACT IT LIKE @%# ATTRACTS FLIES!!!!!! YIPPEE!!! So I can just
can I BUY this, in my MIND, in my HOPES and DREAMS, just like PIE HEAVEN???????
If I pay some charlatan MONEY will I NOT ATTRACT PAIN ANY MORE????? HALLELUYAH!!!! WHERE DO I SEND MY MONEY????? Please send a written guarantee.

2:35PM PST on Jan 16, 2012

What happened to the Deepak blog??? The repetition is quite 'uninspired'.
Spirit > To the Rescue please, Let Care2 know that this format is like a doormat.

2:59PM PST on Jan 9, 2012

Letting go of the material reality is involved. Reality is whatever we perceive it to be. In the silence and the nothingness of darkness we have a vague awareness of the 'unknown', and at the same time have a sense of self as well. In this 'unknown' realm of our existence - at once united with our sense of individual self, we have let spirit whisper lightly into our mind. There is awe, and there is mystery; there is safety as well as doubt about everything is; there is hope lurking in the darkness, and there is our breath of relief in the light of life; - and in this - we are one, we are found to be joined in this grand puzzle - complex and full of human struggle, human learning, human's with the capacity to feel compassionate for all that is in the mystery, and with the human potential to 'make better' anything which is in harms way.
Feeling this spirit brings a sense of power. *loving power* > the rescue~

1:43PM PST on Dec 31, 2011

Great article.

12:02PM PST on Dec 31, 2011

Thank you for an interesting article, it has broadened my knowledge.

9:22PM PST on Dec 30, 2011

Thank you so much.

7:53AM PST on Dec 30, 2011


6:52AM PST on Dec 30, 2011

I think it was Gandhi who said something like: "The trick isn't not to feel pain but not to mind."

6:39AM PST on Dec 30, 2011


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