In men, this merging of male and female within oneself means the advent of tenderness, nurturing, and trust. Having a woman supply these qualities is not enough. Male attributes of force and violence have become grotesquely exaggerated in this world because men leave the “feminine” energies to women. Aggression and violence will become unnecessary as the shadow energies they disguise–fear and impotence–come to the surface to be recognized and healed.
Being vulnerable will then be seen as a human quality, not a weakness that makes a man only half a man. Competition based on raging (and insecure) ego will diminish with healing, and the ability to cooperate will increase.
The worth of women in men’s eyes will rise as men stop defining themselves as the opposite of female. Spiritually, male is the complement of female. Once this is accepted the awakening of male spirituality can come about, since it takes an infusion of female energy before our bodies and minds can totally merge with the silent field of pure awareness.
For women, the journey to wholeness is different, because it first entails raising female qualities to full dignity with male. A woman must build up her energies, so long forced into submission by society, whereas a man typically has to diminish the dominance of his.
In both instances what is being achieved is balance.
Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).